In laws didn’t show up to son’s birthday
Hi everyone! I need some advice! Please tell me if me and my husband are the wrong ones here. Honest opinions and advice please.
So it was my son’s 2nd birthday and we weren’t sure what we were gonna do for the longest time. We told each sides of our immediate family that we would either have a small gathering in our home or a small dinner party at our community clubhouse on a Monday night (yesterday) which was my son’s actual birthday. We knew both sides would want to see him on his actual day, so we thought this would be the best plan.
Both sets of grandparents said yes to the plan but my husband’s sister said she had work. We’re not super close to her and since we planned to have Thanksgiving with her (just 3 days after my son’s birthday) we figured she could just see my son then. My husband told her not to worry, we’ll see her for Thanksgiving, but she never answered him after that…
After that convo and leading up to my son’s birthday party, my husband’s parents stopped communication with him. They stop texting and calling him. My husband figures it’s because they’re upset we continued plans for my son’s birthday even though his sister had work.
My son’s birthday comes along and no text from my husband’s parents. No happy birthday, nothing. The dinner party begins and my husband still doesn’t hear from them. He calls during the party to ask where they are and his dad answered all cold and said “we’re home, we’re not coming.”
This upset my husband and was a shock for all of us. We’re so shocked that they’re so upset about the sister not coming and whatever they have planted in their heads, that they wouldn’t even greet their own grandson happy birthday or come to his dinner party.
I’m so sad for my husband. It really hurt him. But are we in the wrong? Should we have cancelled plans (on my son’s actual birthday) just because his sister (who we’re not even close to) had work? Even though we were gonna see her 3 days after on Thanksgiving?
I’m so confused. Please help.
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Nope, you were not in the wrong at all. It is disgusting that they would take something so small & silly like that out on their grandson. It's not like you told his sister not to come, in which case they would be more justified. Why should you cancel your sons birthday celebration just because 1 person couldn't come 🤨
Absolutely not! Your in-law knows when your sons birthday is so if the sister wanted to she could probably have put something in place in advance. Her not being able to make it doesn't give the parents a reason to not turn up - how horrible! Your husband must be gutted they have done it as well 😕 x
Nope, not wrong at all. That’s very upsetting. This year, for my son’s 5th birthday, we invited immediate family and friends and sent out invites a month in advance. My husband’s side of the family didn’t show up. My family did. My mother in law’s birthday is 2 days before my son’s birthday. She went out for her birthday, cool. But choose not to attend her grandson’s birthday because she wanted a self care day.. out of all the day.. she choose on her grandson’s actual birthday.. Next year, we’re doing family trips instead. I was so upset and disappointed 😭
Oh man.. I wouldn’t even end up going to their thanksgiving. That’s so sick and cold smh. Honestly shame on them.
Thank you, everyone. My husband is so upset at their childish behavior that he’s just ready to cut them off. He doesn’t want to speak to them for awhile. :/
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