Husband lied to my face

Plan your exit and surprise him with it like he's surprised you with this. You deserve more than him. "Why do nice guys see sex workers" they don't mate, keep lying to yourself 🤡

Whether it’s over is left for you to figure out. But if that was me.. we done!

Agree with Chloe - get your ducks in a row and surprise him. Spend as much time doing things you enjoy away from him so that you don’t show your anger. He is lying to you and searching behind your back instead of giving you the respect you deserve to tell you he’s unhappy and wanting something else. Kill him with kindness and leave on your own terms. Do not let his actions dictate how you respond, you’ll feel so much better in the long run for just leaving him in your own way and telling him you knew when you do. He will feel massively embarrassed when he finds out you knew and planned your exit accordingly with grace, which is great revenge without anger. You deserve way way better than that life. Sending love and if you need a chat please message x

That would be an end for me. I'm not willing to stay in a relationship where I have to stress about this kind of stuff. Peace of mind is more important.

Secretly and quietly plan for an escape and then ruuuuuun! Remember that people will fabricate a response and answer based on what they think you want to hear… and not the truth. Don’t fall for any of it.

I'm so worried, I don't have a job and the rental market is so cruel with no children allowed. I don't have a job because I can't afford childcare.... I definitely can't afford childcare and rent and bills myself... I dont have the most supportive family. I don't think I can just dump myself on my friends with a baby... I don't even know why he is looking elsewhere. I wish he would had just spoken to me. All I do is support him and try my best for our little family.

I can't sleep. My heart is thumping in my throat. How can he sleep so peacefully. Maybe my asking him made it worst, too. Oh my gosh... damn.... This is so tough

Where are you based? Uk/states? I don’t know how things work in the states but if you’re in the UK you can get 80% of your childcare paid for if you’re working.

UK! I think it's only 85% if you have UC, or entitled to it? It's only 15 hours free otherwise, it may work. I couldn't sleep last night, my heart feels so tender. If I can make it through a year, I think I can pick up the pieces to then be comfortable alone. I have subscribed to a few job notifications, and I looked at rent near me (sooo much... 🥲) and now I'm going to start minimising my belongings. I don't have a lot anyway, but I'd be downsizing so I need at least a room less of stuff. LO needs a healthy mum and I can't ever forgive he chose to give up rather than find out the root cause. I also don't like how he takes no responsibility to the change in our relationship. I fear that when things aren't going his way again, he will jump into another woman. Which, at this point I'm trying not to care. If I'm single I know I'd be calmer as most of my days are picking up after him or his regular mistakes (like constantly draining the car battery, not reading instructions for things and damaging them..)

I'm so disappointed though, not even angry, I can't even yell. Just years and heart ache.

Send me a DM mama, I’ve got some info to send regarding childcare. They will cover £646 per month for 1 child and 1108 for more than 1. You will have to pay for childcare upfront and just provide them with your invoices for reimbursement. (This is separate from the 15/30 hrs btw) . Only requirement is that you’re working. Do what you have to do for your mental health, for your child and for your peace of mind! 🤎