What do you think is the most important factor in decided whether to stay or leave a relationship?

Deciding*

For me my own happiness and mental health have been the last thing for a long time. I typically put my children’s well-being and financial stability ahead. My parents divorced when I was young and I had to share a bed with my sister and live between two cities. It wasn’t bad but I fear not being able to give things to my children or myself. Basically starting from scratch is so scary my own I haven’t minded mentally suffering.

Happiness and mental well being

I think putting your own happiness and well-being first coincides with the well being of your children.

I think A, B and C all feed in to each other. Can’t rly have one without the other. D is tricky because it is the harsh reality and it depends on how badly you would have to struggle to get on your feet first. I think I personally could manage especially if I downsized bc I earn more than my partner, but I would have a hard time without his support with chores and driving etc I would also miss the love & support of my in laws, if there was some way I could win them in the divorce I'd consider it. My marriage isn't terrible thankfully, but B and C fluctuate waaaaay more than I ever anticipated. My parents were soul mates and very solid, so I have no context on all the conflicts that me and my partner have, it feels insane but looks good on the outside.

Big on 'my own happiness and wellbeing'.

B-C