Would love to hear your thoughts

First of all - I'm pregnant with baby number 2 and super happy albeit still super anxious. At the start of this year I found out I was pregnant and my husband took a minute to get happy about the news. Once he did then he was super supportive. But a few weeks later I started bleeding and lost the baby. Afterwards my husband confessed that he really wasn't keen on a second child but he wouldnt force me to start taking any contraceptives so he insisted we have condom sex from then on. I was devastated but after a few weeks of fighting over it, I gave in. I still love him and if that meant condom sex and no second baby then so be it. However, it only took a couple months before he lost interest in using condoms. I chose not to question him and go with the flow. Now I'm pregnant and I know I have to tell him but I'm so worried about how he might react. I'm also scared that I'll miscarry again and this time he might be more motivated to avoid getting pregnant again. As it is I'm barely 4 weeks pregnant so I'm thinking to wait until Christmas to tell him.

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Good idea,you need to be sure as well

I think you should wait till after Christmas

Hey, it’s a tricky one. Do what feels right for you. Your hubby must know that there would have been a chance of getting pregnant while not using contraception. If he really didn’t want another child I would assume he would have carried on with condoms perhaps maybe he just wanted to go with the flow and if it happens it happens attitude ? When you do tell him I hope it works out how you wish it too xx sending love and congratulations x

I’d wait just a little bit longer for you’re own mental health as the woman always carries the loss heavier, once you’re into the safe zone that’s when I’d let him know

Thank you all for your thoughts. I think waiting a little longer than Christmas is a good idea. Lord knows it will be hard though since I'm used to telling my Mister everything and it's going to be even harder once I start feeling symptoms. I usually start feeling nausea from 6 weeks and everything starts to smell offensive lol.

I'm just praying so hard that this little one sticks around.

I understand why you’re anxious about telling him but I personally think it’s better to tell him now. I’d imagine my husband would be furious if he found out I’d known for a couple of weeks and didn’t tell him, this could potentially cause friction in your relationship

@Anna. That's why I'm conflicted. I've been pregnant 4 times and always told my husband the same day. This already feels highly unsettling because I've known since Friday and haven't said anything yet.

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