Fantasies as a married woman

In my opinion, having an honest and open conversation with your husband would be my first step. I don’t mean tell him you want to fuck some other guy, I mean tell him what you want sexually. Start small- I don’t know how “vanilla” your sex life has been previously, but start with one thing you want to “try.” In my opinion, you owe yourself and your husband at least a conversation about what you want, you never know, maybe he’s too nervous to open up to you about what he wants sexually, I know I was until my husband started the conversation.

I agree with everything @Haleigh suggested. But I also want to add, as a married woman, I don’t find it appropriate to speak to another man about anything sexual. In my eyes, that’s an emotional affair. I suggest ending that “friendship” and focusing on your marriage. Hope it gets better for you 💕

@Haleigh we are sexually very open and do pretty much everything we can already think of. So I don't think it's that unfortunately 😩

@Nico I agree with you and I feel so guilty but I feel even guiltier for breaking up a perfectly good marriage over this so I was just hoping I could get it out of my head

the grass is not greener on the other side, usually with sex you can’t get enough of…that 1 more time will turn into more times….you have to ask yourself is it worth breaking your marriage for short term pleasure…and why do you believe you can’t be open and honest with your husband? Because it’s easy to find a hook up but very hard to find your lifelong person…also you have to understand infidelity breaks a person, all they put into the marriage and being a parent as well…especially a man with his ego and he is the protector and provider of his home…you would want your husband to come to you and tell you his sexual needs so I think you have to realize acting on certain temptations is highly destructive and comes with dire consequences and going outside of your marriage may seem exciting now but it is a dangerous game for anyone….i know marriage is hard and boring but it is a spiritual union and man and woman to produce your children so the significance is paramount

I believe you are facing a spiritual battle, you have to ask yourself what are you risking? Because if you break your marriage then what? All the sex in the world will not fullfill your soul…you are beyond blessed love so you can try to work it out with your husband

I am feeling the same with a guy friend. I knew him before my husband, and he always wanted me. In lockdown, I got so close to him, and yes, feelings have developed. But I think it's because my husband and I had problems. So I have backed off, and I was drawn in messaging. Now I stopped he messaging me. He won't ever leave me alone. I don't know. I have what if I dated him years ago. I come to realise he is just like my husband, probably worse. Same star sign as me, and yes, a lot in common, but just like no, it won't happen.. Now repairing my marriage or making it work.. Strangely dreamt of my guy friend and like Satan no I won't have you destroy my marriage.

You’re in an emotional affair. You want what you “can’t have”. It’s a game. And it’s terrible to do that to your husband, and your baby. Stop communicating with that person, it’s just a game to him too. The only difference is he has nothing to lose, and you have EVERYTHING to lose. Spice up your own sex life and quit thinking the grass is always greener on the other side. It’s greener where you water it.

@Miche Amen 🙏🏾