You're not over reacting here. I'm in a similar situation. My lo is 8 months on the 10th.i don't work due to my health, hubby does full time Monday to Thursday (4:30pm finish) and Fridays are half days. I'm in pain 24/7 and even worse when I'm doing stuff. Had a C-section too. From day 1, I've been doing everything for Lo, housework, washing, trying to find time to rest due to my health. And now currently throwing in packing the house and house hunting on top. My anxiety is high so is my pain but it's all on me. At 15w I had a word saying he needs to step up, he said he would after that weekend due to work being tough (he's an engineer). He takes naps on a Friday after work and even on a Saturday, I hardly sleep but no naps for me. I get excited when Lo smashes a milestone, like 2 weeks ago she's now sitting up. He doesn't seem bothered. When I tell him once home from work, TV is paused and he's playing a game on his phone. He says nothing in response, once I've finished he presses play. I get lo to sit (1/2)
In front of him on the floor to show him rather than just telling him but the same reaction. I feel like he doesn't care at all. If he starts a convo even if it's something I'm not interested in, I try to take a interest and ask follow up questions. But if it's me then I feel like, with his actions he's saying 'shut up so I can press play on our program'. I'm at the point of feeling 'what's the point in telling him updates on lo? He ain't bothered' I'm thinking of making a Dr's ap due to my anxiety being so high and my frustration ect. I keep meaning to start writing a letter for him as it'll be easier then talking to him but I keep putting it off. I feel like a single mom with 2 kids. As he acts like he has no responsibilities other than work.
They do say having a kid will make or break a relationship/marriage. Don’t just stay with him for the sake of your kid though that’s all I’m saying in the situation because I’d have been belling his phone down and going mad. I’m so glad I’m kinda single it’s just the easiest on my own me and my baby girl
Honestly, i felt so mad for you as I read this. I just don't understand how he thinks how he behaved is ok. I don't blame you for being absolute furious. How was he with sharing household tasks before you had a baby?