Sorry I made a mistake before

she knows I have a health condition which makes it worse

This might be controversial, but so it is. Our fear of other people and illness creates illness. Developing immunity naturally, which is inherent makes us stronger through herd immunity and environmental individual immunity. The more you fear the more you will be sick. Of course we don’t wanna get other people sick and there exceptions but the runny nose for me is not one of them.

I would let the parents know what's going on and let them make the decision on if they want to reschedule or not

do you have a scientific degree? Or is this like law of attraction beliefs? Many viruses you can’t get immunity as they mutate constantly. I have a heart condition so I can’t just not care about it. I think there’s a difference between fear and putting yourself needlessly at risk. A runny nose can be a condition that is life threatening such as bronchiolitis

I would and have already done this before meeting others for play dates if there’s any health concerns I let them know and let them make the call. If they’re comfortable we meet if they’re not we reschedule. It’s not a big deal in my book to be mindful of others.

apparently we are being ridiculous for being upset that she turned up with symptoms and didn’t tell us

@Incognito Sounds ridiculous to turn up at someone’s house with symptoms without providing any notice.

I have a low threshold to cancel playdates. I’ve cancelled many due to possible illness

she called us names, was nasty to us for calling her out on it and said there won’t be a next time

it’s my partners sister. She’s adamant she’s in the right and that we are horrible people and don’t care about her daughter even though we asked about her and if she was ok

she claims she didn’t know but her ex mentioned her being hot earlier and she’d had a runny nose for weeks she claims was nothing but she did have a cold 2 weeks prior so it could still have been that imo