I want a second baby but my husband wants to wait.

I completely understand why you’d want another now, I also want my next to be quite close together because I would like the age gap to be small like you say! In this situation for me i’d just explain to them why in a few years won’t be viable and why it’s best to do it now and then focus on your career (I assume is what you’re thinking?) and just try to get your points across in a conversation about it. He also has a right to decide as he’s the father, but it does make more sense for you to be a bigger part of that decision as you’d be the one staying at home with them when they’re born etc. It’s a hard one I’d just have to talk to them and try convince them!

I’m the same as you I would rather have my children young (I have a 4 month old I’m 21) and then focus on progressing my career x

@Hannah I’m 21 as well and want a small age gap but how small of a gap would you say is good

There are pros and cons I think. It’s a huge plus that you’re at a point where you have more time, but some things to think about are whether or not you have your finances in order this early in your career. Do you have your first job yet? Would a gap in your resume this early on in your career make it difficult to get hired later on in your field? My husband and I got accidentally pregnant with twins right after I graduated with my masters and it’s been really hard. I’ve only been in my career for a few months and have no savings. We’re dependent on our parents now to help us buy a condo since we can’t fit twins in our current place. It would’ve been much easier if we could’ve waited, though the extra time is nice. Also, it’s a decision you should make together as a team, and develop a plan for how you’ll do it.

@Lydia I’m waiting until my son is 2 to start trying again, I just want to savour my first 2 years with just him 😊 It’s whenever you’re ready!

@Lydia I just turned 22 and have my second on the way. They’ll be about 20 months apart. Make sure to give your body time to heal

I graduated from law school this year and have an almost 3 month old and I’d say have the baby now… the career field is so oversaturated and it’s better to start fresh rather than start, take a break and always be playing catch up with your peers. Considering how young you are you will probably find having kids less taxing now too e.g. the late nights and early mornings as you’ll have more energy and it means you can properly start your career when you’re more established with a routine at home rather than another kid throwing everything out of whack and having a career to juggle on top

I think there’s maybe some other worries from your husband than just your career and he’s just not sure how to address it properly without upsetting you, i think maybe your husband is worried about the financial burden of providing for not 1 but 2 children, maybe he was hoping that he wouldn’t be the one solely providing longer than what was necessary and having a second child this soon after your first means that he is not only doing it for a longer period of time but it is actually going to be much more stressful for him, the best way to figure this out is to discuss this fully with him, it is not your decision, it is a decision you both need to make together and if one of you is in disagreement then it is wrong to force another child on to someone that’s not ready, maybe set an agreement that in “x” amount of time you would both agree to start trying again, something in the middle for both of you?

@Sarah I am I just like to plan ahead my boy I have now was planned a year in advance I want a summer and winter baby