Question.

Wanting to have sex with them

@Mikayla I’m kinda struggling to want sex atm but he wants it every day 🤦🏽‍♀️ it’s exhausting…I just don’t know what to do about it.

Not being into him sexually, physically & mentally. Ppl think it’s always about the physical attributes. But it can be mentally,you’re just not attracted to him anymore . You don’t get arouse by him anymore . I was told by a female friend of mines, if your man doesn’t make you wet down there . And you don’t get hot & bothered by him. You’re no longer into him .

When you compare things now to times you felt more attracted to your partner think about the lives you led around those times. You both got relatively restful sleep, you wore different clothes, you had time for hobbies, to follow your ideas, and to do your hair. You were going out to new places and having new experiences. Try to adjust your circumstances so you aren't comparing apples to oranges. That will help you figure out whether you think he's not sexy or its just that your life is just not that sexy right now. If your husband is highly motivated, and it sounds like he is, get him to help you get there. Tell him these are the things that would put you more in the mood. Have him plan dates at new places, plan babysitters, take the kids off your hands for a few hours to let you shower, dress up, and decompress beforehand. Put on some music from the time you were dating. Wear the same perfume. Really put yourself in that headspace and see if it sparks something interesting.... or doesn't.

Tbh asking this question is a sign.

Do it once a week if your emotional needs are being met and there is an connection and if you want to.

@Jan or could of just had a baby. Im very much into my husband but im 4 months postpartum with a 2 year old as well sex is the last thing on my mind i wanna sleeeeep

Thank you guys, really appreciate your comments! I’ll definitely give these methods a try.

@Claire I disagree. It could just be boredom. I have adhd and I’ve gotten bored with my partner and he thought it was an attraction issue when it wasn’t at all.

i think you will know the difference between not wanting sex as you are run down and tired and do not have the energy for it and because you do not want to be having sex with that person. it is a very clear difference. i know atleast for me, im a very sexual person so i knew for sure but it also is whether it started around any time? i started to not want to him sex with him as his behaviour started getting worse and he was getting more controlling/degrading - all my attraction to him went and i’d have the sexual urges but would never as i didn’t want it with him xx

I’m in the same boat as you and I do agree with one of the ladies if and when your man starts treating you with disrespect, not very nice, might bring you down even if he wasn’t trying to and is discouraging and doesn’t help you all of those things make us look at our partner different and different feeling come up and especially if you have ever thought of maybe leaving that person and they keep doing stuff that they said they’ll never do again, at that point your trust has been broken and you don’t know how you feel about that person and the last thing your body and your mind thinks about is being sexual with him. I’ve been through it and frankly still going through it. My partner wants to be sexual at least once a day but I don’t want to bc it doesn’t sound enjoyable or I’m exhausted, or he keeps saying or doing things that I’ve told him that upset me. If you can relate to me you need to ask your self is this the person you really want to spend the rest of your life with or not?

When sex feels like a chore and the kisses gross you out. Or finding you're thinking about doing something else during intimate moments. At least those are the signs I've noticed in myself 😅