Need advice with personality

So I just got broken up with. I gave birth 2 months ago and have been with my bd for 3 1/2 years. I found out he was having sex with someone while I was pregnant today and after I confronted him, he texted me and broke up with me. He told me he can’t talk to me “raunchy” and misses it, says I have no personality, vibes, or character and he cannot relate to me. Obviously this hurts and we’re done, there is no excuse for cheating. But I’m wondering what I can do to not be basically as boring both in and out of the bedroom for the future. I don’t want this to happen again. Any recommendations

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He probably just said that to justify his actions. I'm sure you're lovely, be yourself and be proud of it! You can always read more or get some new hobbies but don't let a cheating man dictate how you should be ❤️

Umm, he’s the problem here. Not you. Even if your behavior was actually the issue he should have communicated that like an adult instead of cheating on the mother of his child and then blaming her. You deserve better and there are plenty of good men out there that could cherish you just the way you are for a million reasons besides becoming “raunchy”. If you want to change then do it because you feel like it not because someone who doesn’t deserve you in the first place says you don’t fit their immature idea of who you should be. Sorry you are going through this but sounds like you are better off without him in the long run.

Oh hell no. It’s not you. It’s him. He wanted to justify his shitty behaviour so decided to try and bring you down. You were together for 3+ years, he wasn’t complaining throughout that. When you do find someone talk about how you like to be pleasured and vice versa. You’ll be fine. Don’t let your baby father reduce yourself esteem. Wishing you the best x

@Lizzie well the honest truth is that he did complain for those 3 years, but I changed a lot. My outer appearance, the way I present myself, my inner self, confidence, and sensuality. It just wasn’t enough for him. He’s still complaining about me. I always told him it seems like he just doesn’t like me and he always said he does, he just wants me to tweak a few things and be more feminine and spicy I guess. I tried

That's not real love honey. Love is accepting someone as they are, not tweaking around. I assure you, you'll find someone who appreciates all of you, not a tweaked version of you

As others have said, he’s the problem. Do not be someone or do anything you’re uncomfortable with. Find someone who matches where you are. You can practice alone if you want to explore or learn new tricks. But do not lower your self worth or esteem because he decided he’d rather cheat than move on.

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