MIL not giving crying baby back

Annoyingly, it’s normal, but it doesn’t make it okay and doesn’t mean you have to put up with it. My MIL used to try to this and after trying to take my son back and her refusing I firmly said “give me my fucking baby back right now” and she never did it again!

Oh, I'm so sorry. I had this with my now 4 year old. It was absolutely the worst thing. I didn't have enough confidence to insist on getting her back, but wish I had. We had all the emotional stuff from her to, like how my daughter hates her and her crying about it.
My daughter grew to distrust her and eventually would crawl any way but her way.
It is not normal though. None of her other three grandparents acted this way.
Again, so so sorry you're going through this.

Make a scene! 😂 But in all seriousness, be firm and set your boundaries now or it will only get worse. She is YOUR baby and if you want her back you should be able to ask for her back.

Sometimes I let grandparents have a couple of minutes to settle my baby so he starts to recognise them as a safe person, but that's it. I then do take my baby and settle him myself!
I personally think next time, create a scene. Then she won't do it again and respect your boundaries!

they now sell in laws 🤣

In all seriousness I would be demanding my child I hate it when he cries and the fact that yours has reached out for you and she’s just walked away is cruel

@Maneek I thought I was gonna get a bargain on a new MIL 😂

Thanks everyone for validating me 🥰 in the moment I wanted to cry myself but I'm also going through a hormonal spell.

I'll say something next time and it's kinda her own fault the baby doesn't know her. 🤷‍♀️

Yeah that’s not ok behaviour! My MIL and my mum would try to settle her, but if they couldn’t do it quickly they would hand her back and I wouldn’t have to ask!

I had this when my girl was small with my father in law and I’m afraid I just said “no” and took my baby back. It was awkward but necessary x

Yes, I don't think it's intentional but a simple "it's fine, I will take him/her" shall suffice

With a boundary crossed it is most effective to seek a moment aside from the conflict to lay out your expectations and have a calm conversation ideally with your husband (if he is the son). It is upsetting that she ignored you. You are the mother of the child and are in charge as parents..

Annoyingly yes it’s normal. Everyone thinks they can calm your baby. It’s hard, but I have just started setting a boundary and taking my baby back when she cries especially because when there’s a group, my baby tends to get overstimulated and I can calm her down other people just rile her up

I think it’s normal. My MIL tried with my little girl as she kept saying that she has to get used to other people but I just grabbed my daughter back and said that I’m not going to allow her to scream and keep reaching for me only to be refused

I wouldnt let her hold again and have taken my baby off her, she has no rights and wouldn't ask her to visit again for distressing the baby

I'll say one thing when it comes to babies and family. Who's baby is it? Yours. You know best. Not her. You take her when you need to take her end of. No MIL can settle your baby. No discussion. It's the way of life. You got this mamma. ❤️

Christ what is wrong with people. If someone else’s baby was crying in my arms I’d give them straight back to mum. Honestly I think I would have lost my shit and yelled at her 😂

i think nothing is normal when it comes to babies and grandmas esp MIL

ppl will always think their entitled to your baby 🙄 it’s annoying but at the end of the day you’re the mom you can do whatever you want. honestly just be firm and tell her to give your baby back. if she refuses or gives you issues then i would personally insist that she either follows your rules or she won’t have access to baby🤷🏻‍♀️

Moms are genetically wired to settle their babies down. You are your child’s primary person & you sooth their neurological problems. Please don’t let anyone take this away for you & your baby

You can make a scene if you want but you can also just be blunt and say “no thanks, it’s too stressful for me to see/hear her so stressed” and just take her back. You don’t even have to be rude about it, just firm. Once she’s settled you can let MIL or whoever hold her again and then there’s no need for anyone to feel slighted

My mother in law is this way. She’s a Labour and delivery nurse so she has tricks and I know she knows what she’s doing but she’s not mom. My daughter was the first grandchild so she tried endlessly and I cringed in silence (i literally met them after I was pregnant so still wanted them to like me 😅) my niece has a smoke alarm cry if she’s with anyone but her mom so luckily they quit trying with her and now if my youngest lets out the smallest whine they all but throw her at me lol