in March 2025 Babies 🇬🇧

Advice please partners & porn

I really don’t know if I’m being over sensitive here possibly I am because pregnant and what or not so I’m highly sensitive at the moment. Me and my partner about a month if not longer ago both agreed we would stop watching porn for many reasons, obviously long term it can have affect on the relationship and also just so we’d both feel abit more confident in ourselves (this was mainly for benefit due to not feeling confident at all since being pregnant). The further I have come along in pregnancy the more I struggle to feel sexy and feel I don’t look good at all in any outfits etc etc. Anyways I was using his phone earlier and went to use Safari (all the previous tabs were still open) I see one which was a personal Twitter account of a female who posts explicit content of herself doing all sorts looking through the search history he searched this up on Thursday just gone but that wasn’t all… there was several Twitter accounts that he had viewed all females posting explicit content of themselves. This has really upset me and I couldn’t help it in the moment I just cried, I now feel even more insecure than what I already felt bear in mind my confidence was at rock bottom anyway. We have spoke about it blah blah he says his sorry won’t happen again blah blah but I don’t think he truly understands the way it has now made me feel.

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I was in such a similar situation as well. I think men can be really insensitive when it comes to these things. There is so much temptation everywhere, social media and porn is a huge problem and breaks trust. I am also at a loss on how to sort the situation. 😪

Of course it’s going to be hurtful if you’ve already had the chat with him about not doing it. You’re also very hormonal and it feels sooo much more of a let down. I’d bring it up again, often, to bring it home again how important the trust you have in each other means you build your relationship and it’s foundations in a healthy way for the new arrival. You need to be a team, is he in it with you or not? Does he want to be a role model? Men need more training .. it’s just how it is ( but tiring and you could well do without it) but it’s a fact - they don’t mature at the same rate as a female… Maybe he needs to take a rest from social media for a bit too.. Pregnancy doesn’t make us feel sexy no… all the body changes, but, you’re AMAZING and a super Wonder Woman building a human being right now.. remember that, remind yourself what a miracle it is and look after yourself.

Remind him how amazing you are too!!

Hopefully you’ve got good bean and they just need a bit more teaching .. Good luck xxx

Me and my partner have been through the same thing. Both making the decision to stop watching porn, coming off social media to avoid us both seeing that sort of content. I can imagine how disappointing it must feel after already having the conversation with him. My advice is to make sure you’re both on the same page and work together as a team. I’ve found speaking to each other when we feel temptations and supporting each other has really helped. It’s not an easy journey as porn is so addictive but if you work together the other side is everything - good luck girl 💕

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