SO changed during relationship

My SO has changed this pregnancy, he was so caring during our first and dare I say looked after me more. Now this time round, he's not doing stuff without me asking and even then I feel it should be second nature to do this stuff (it is for me) So I will get our child ready for school in the mornings, ready/breakfaat etc and he'll just have more of a lie in and go on his phone. He also will only do stuff if I ask him, like he'll leave the house in a mess, won't initiate anything that's remotely helpful. I was in pain from pregnancy related symptoms yesterday and he offered paracetamol and because I said we don't have any, that was it.. my initial thought would be "you sit there I'll go the shop" and head off, but he waits for confirmation instead. We had a blow out the other day where I stayed at my parents house for the night and he was so apologetic about being more considerate etc and it's like a switch has been flicked, cards he's back to square one again. Like nothings changed.

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I'm just so tired of what feels like the only adult in this relationship and don't know what to do

Sounds like you need to have a deep, clear conversation about this with him. And if he doesn’t change, then it may be time to move on. I’m sorry

I went through a similar thing with my husband. During my first pregnancy, he doted on me - made me coffee every morning, random foot massages, lots of affection, always helping with anything I needed, etc. During my second, it was like night and day. He actually called me lazy bc I was too tired to do much during the first trimester. Played video games all the time, always scrolling on his phone when we were together, etc. It was really, really hurtful. We were even considering separating at one point. Things got a lot better for us after my 2nd was born. We started making our marriage a priority again. We did do couples counseling for a couple of months. We had some very difficult conversations, but I think we've finally entered a stronger era of our marriage. I think things can improve, but it takes effort from both sides and a strong desire to overcome obstacles as a team. It's a lot of hard conversations, compromise, and sometimes making some sacrifices for the sake of the marriage.

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