Someone Talk Me Down

Regardless if the baby is safe, you’re a protective mom in PP and since he said he would, he should have!

This sounds so stressful I’m sorry it happened! I would be super annoyed if my husband did this

I would be same as you but to me it seems like he doesn't care if baby is with you or not with you and if baby is oky

I would trip and my child is 2

Hey, I'm sorry, I accidentally chose the you should have gone and picked up your baby but I don't feel that way at all. Personally he should have kept his word and gotten the baby or let you know he's too tired so that you could have known before you slept.

He should do what he says he's going to do when it comes to your child. Now you can trust him at all. He should have brought baby home that night. But he wouldn't even go in the morning!?! Yikes. This is one for couples therapy. Does he regularly substitute his own judgment for yours, or is this new to being a parent/SAHM situation? He LEFT HIS CHILD, wouldn't go get them, and doesn't feel like he anything wrong. For hours. Even though he had no indication of the condition of the baby. He needs his head checked by a professional. He's not adapting well to fatherhood. I'm sorry this happened, but it's good that you know now so he can work on it.

Not. Ok. For those who clicked baby is fine chill, glad you can wake up in the middle of the night and not know where your baby is. Since they're literally supposed to be in your room with you. 100% your husband's fault too I'd be SEEING RED

If my partner said he would’ve gone and got him last night, my body wouldn’t have been able to let me fall asleep until I saw my child, and if I somehow did fall asleep I would’ve woken up ready to round house kick my partner in the face

Yeah, I'd be seeing red too.

I definitely feel trust has been broken. He said he intended to get baby after his shower but fell asleep first. He apologized but he is standing by his actions saying Baby was safe and he doesn’t understand why I was upset so doesn’t seem like much of an apology to me. I don’t know how to make him understand the sheer panic I felt when I woke up or how I feel my bond with Baby has been affected. I feel that he undermined my decision as a mother. He’s arguing since I fell asleep I couldn’t have cared too much but to me that’s saying I should have known not to trust him to follow through. He is generally a good father IMO but this situation is making me realize he still has some growing up to do. Ugh.. so frustrating.

I’ve been in a similar situation but due to a miscommunication, but it doesn’t make it feel any less terrifying and almost induces feral behavior. I roared at my own mom and my husband for doing shit like this even at the sake of getting me to rest because it’s MY CHILD. That is my heart walking around outside of my body! It is very scary to wake up without your child, even if I rationally know that she’s with dad or grandparents or whoever. Even if I trust you, don’t take my fucking kid without my knowledge, and if you co-parent with me, you better get on the same level. Sorry you went through that, but hopefully they can empathize and you are able to find a place of understanding. ✌🏻 and 💕 mama

Yeah. He intended to get the baby after the shower... BY LAYING DOWN IN BED??? He owes you a major major apology..I think I'd demand counseling over this. He just isn't getting it. GROW UP DUDE

I obviously did, but didn’t need to read far to know that he should’ve gotten the baby. Not a man of his word …

It is understandable that you are mad that he did not keep his word. Also maybe have a chat with your GP about potential anxiety. You are exhausted and having an extra hand would help. No every day but will help you and your baby. You might not see it now but maybe few weeks or months down the track you will notice that it was not so bad to let you rest for the night.

Honestly I don't think I could have gone to sleep until baby was next to me. But yes, he should have kept his word and get baby when he said he would. My son is 15 months and one morning my husband took him downstairs before I woke up and I panicked because I couldn't see him on his monitor, your reaction is perfectly normal

Well why would u wake a safe sleeping baby he’s right for tryna let everyone get rest. Idk if u wanted the baby I guess u should have made sure urself to get the baby.

It’s crazy so many moms on here think they are the only parent who can make the rules and be in control it took two to make the baby let the father have some say it’s ridiculous so controlling 🤌🏼

@Mella Everyone has different partners we don’t know how he acts and from the looks of saying you’ll do something and not doing it I’d say she has a right for concern. If he’s going to make decisions he also needs to consider the mother because it took two to make the baby but she’s the only one who carried the baby and especially breastfeeding so at least at this point she has taken care of the baby more than he has. I don’t see what he did as making a rule or voicing an opinion I see it as careless. At best what he did was controlling and she was just concerned. I don’t know any of her in laws or anything baby’s first sleep over is something to be discussed not decided especially a breastfed baby. I think him “wanting everyone to get sleep” is probably a cop of for him being lazy as most men are. The dads I know don’t do half of what they should and expect to be equals. My man would never even think to disrespect me like that about our kids.

@Ana ok yall r crazy

@Mella I don’t think not being subservient is crazy but I do think it’s crazy to be insensitive to a mom who’s going trough an issue that she feels strongly about most people seem to agree

@Mella it's pretty simple. Your husband says he's going to go get the baby. OK...then go get the baby. THE END.

@Ana yeah most people are dramatic sadly 😂👋🏼

@Mella ok pushover 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Mella in all honesty sweetie please don’t let your husband walk all over you and convince you that you need to allow him to be dishonest and disrespectful

@Ana I raise my kids alone I don’t have any interference like that if I did though I would choose a man who listens

@Mella so you agree that he should listen thanks thats all we needed I wish you luck in your future endeavors ❤️

@Ana na I don’t agree cause it’s his child too 😂😂 but if I really had a problem I wouldn’t have gotten with someone that I wanna control and that would listen u feel me if she wanted him too shoulda choose someone else who didn’t wanna be a father 😂

@Mella he wasn’t being a father when he did that he was being lazy that should’ve been a conversation. But if you see wanting to have a conversation as control don’t even let me hold you babe😂

@Ana okay if she don’t wanna sleep when she can then that’s on her shit I woulda took that and been thankful my baby asleep with parents but for each is own have a good one