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Partner getting on my nerves

I’ve had the implant since I had our 3rd baby in April. Since having her we’ve only had s*x a handful of times. I just have no desire to be physically intimate. I can’t even pretend to enjoy it. My partner keeps trying to initiate it and I just really don’t want to. The thing that gets on my nerves e wry so often he says he’s fine with me not wanting sex but can I take care of his needs by giving him a hand job..i do it for him because I feel bad but inside I’m cringing I don’t want to give him a hand job. I feel touched out because ive had kids in my face all day and honestly the last thing I want to do is have sex. I feel repulsed by the sight of his penis.. just his penis.. because anything physical (more than cuddling or kisses) just gives me the ick right now..like I still love him so it’s not I’ve fallen out of love kind of thing. I think maybe the implant is to blame as this isnt a normal thing for me. It does get annoying that he wants me to help him out still despite me saying I just don’t have that desire.

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I have the implant to and my sx drive has decreased aswell, we have other issues in the relationship but id say my lack of desire doesn't help the case, im.very much like you..tapped out exhausted and mentally drained. I've started trying to look after myself so I feel a bit happier and its starting to work im starting to feel some mood now, so hopefully it continues

@Amanda without sounding rude it sounds like you’re telling me to go and have sex with my husband even though I just said I don’t really have any desire for physical intimacy just to keep him happy and feeling loved? No relationship should be based around doing something you don’t want to. I just don’t appreciate sex being brought up in almost every conversation I try and have with him..because how is that going to make anyone want to have sex with their partner when the partner is what feels like to me harassing me for it at this point. He clearly doesn’t make me feel loved by doing this is feels inconsiderate and selfish. This was more of a rant because it’s starting to piss me off

I don't agree that OP should basically suck it up for her partner and just have sex. How about partner sucks it up and helps her find a solution? Like helping out more so OP can take a break for herself and actually feel relaxed and get into the mood. Forcing yourself will only work so long before she'll snap...

@Amanda Vows do not mean you should have sex with your husband when you don’t want to just bc it’ll make him happy. Sex is not love. You do not need to have sex in a relationship to love one another. While intimacy is important there can be other methods rather than one person “suffering” through sex just so the other enjoys it. Quiet frankly I don’t think your partner could enjoy it very much if you aren’t either

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