Watching 🌽 together

My husband has mentioned watching 🌽 together because his friends do it with their partners. I’ve never been okay with 🌽 but after years I feel like I’m more open to it. I just don’t know if I’m ready to watch together. Ever since he mentioned that; our sex life went from not being intimate in a year to 2-3 times a week. I think his drive has increased after loosing weight and there was an issue with him searching for women. I feel like I’ve put some effort on my part by sending him “hints” in text, sending him memes relating to sex, sending him a pic of myself in lingerie, and I notice that after I do those things we get intimate. What are other things I can do instead of going straight to watching adult videos together? I’m thinking of sending him a video of what I like but once I send it there’s no going back. I’m very monogamous and I feel like something like this is just gonna push him to lust more over other women and imagine them while being with me. He always closes his eyes and usually doesn’t moan and makes me feel insecure cuz it’s common sense that when he watches 🌽 he’s literally seeing them. I’ve been wanting to wear lingerie and try to turn him on while he plays his video game but he usually always shower before going to bed. I’ve also sent him pics of sex toys I’ve bought but we haven’t used them. He has told me he wants to treat me like I’m not his wife so I’ve given him that opportunity cuz even though I’m more timid, I also like it “rough” lol but he doesn’t do anything and I’m worried he doesn’t want to open up with me but that he might look for other women for that.

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have you talked to him about any of this?

@Nestlē✨ I told him I was open to it but I haven’t told him specifically how I felt about it

do you think you should tell him how you feel?

I would have an honest conversation about how you feel. I feel the same about porn. I'm sorry you are dealing with this.

Hey hun, i would speak to him honestly about how you feel, see if you can find out where he's at. I wouldn't do it yet if you don't feel comfortable and feel very similar to you about pornography. It's totally understandable.

You can take a video of yourself instead. That can be a private 🌽 for your husband’s eyes only. That way he will only need to watch you and there’ll be no need for an actual 🌽 you can just tell him what you want him to do to you too, like you should be able to talk about all of this comfortably as that is why it means to be intimate. Sex and making-love is very two different things, one is about getting pleasure and the other is about expressing affections for one another through intimate act. Just a personal experience, sometimes we have sex just for the sake of satisfactions, but there will be time where we would take our time and just enjoy being with each other. But all can only happen if you have talked about it between each other.

@Nattinan well said!!

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