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  • You have read a blog post about hiking on a mobile app of a publisher and followed a link to a recommended and related post. Your interactions will be recorded as showing that the initial hiking post was useful to you and that it was successful in interesting you in the related post. This will be measured to know whether to produce more posts on hiking in the future and where to place them on the home screen of the mobile app.
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  • The owner of an online bookstore wants commercial reporting showing the proportion of visitors who consulted and left its site without buying, or consulted and bought the last celebrity autobiography of the month, as well as the average age and the male/female distribution of each category. Data relating to your navigation on its site and to your personal characteristics is then used and combined with other such data to produce these statistics.
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  • A technology platform working with a social media provider notices a growth in mobile app users, and sees based on their profiles that many of them are connecting through mobile connections. It uses a new technology to deliver ads that are formatted for mobile devices and that are low-bandwidth, to improve their performance.
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  • A travel magazine has published an article on its website about the new online courses proposed by a language school, to improve travelling experiences abroad. The school’s blog posts are inserted directly at the bottom of the page, and selected on the basis of your non-precise location (for instance, blog posts explaining the course curriculum for different languages than the language of the country you are situated in).
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  • An advertising intermediary delivers ads from various advertisers to its network of partnering websites. It notices a large increase in clicks on ads relating to one advertiser, and uses data regarding the source of the clicks to determine that 80% of the clicks come from bots rather than humans.

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Toddler parent preference

Hi everyone,
I have a 21 months old boy who has a strong preference for his dad and I feel like he doesn’t like me at all. He tries to hit me when I am around or never lets me sleep with him or change his diaper. Has anyone been through this ? I am really hurt and don’t know what to do :( any advice ?

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Is he with dad more maybe?

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@MarnaNo actually he has been with me more because his dad is busy at work most of the time during the day .

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He misses his dad that’s why. You should leave him with his dad for few hours a day and he’ll miss you.

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He probably just misses his dad. My toddler isn’t as bad as what you described but once dad is home from work, she wants him not me.

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@Melisha he doesn’t even want me around he cries when I try to play with him so I try to stay away as much as possible to respect his feelings

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https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTY4kvKNw/
the fourth slide in this Tik tok could be related to your situation a bit perhaps

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@Andrea yes this is exactly my situation:( i just had another one !!! Thank you this helps give me a little peace of mind

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My son was the same when I was pregnant and for a little bit when the new baby came. Not quite as bad. He’d play with me and what not when dad wasn’t home. He’s gotten better over the months and looks for me more now but usually still dad. I just try to give him attention more throughout the day and put the baby down to do things with him. Now that she’s moving he even plays with her a little lol

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My husband told his mum I’m pregnant two weeks ago. She has not reached out or said anything to me.
My husband asked her why she hasn’t said anything and she said she’d rather do that in person.. even though I’ve been so sick w this!

Am I wrong to be upset??!

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so my babydaddy other bm is messy real messy i know her and my bd is still messing around because everytime they start messing around over and over she wants to have a fake problem with me all of a sudden.. but a little back story lol

My bd be lying some days on what he has to do to get out of picking our son up from school or after school program he's in for the summer.. when really he's just going to go fu**k his bm not that i care about where he goes but why lie to get out of picking him up lol my son do enjoy being with his dad so he has more days with our son then i do. For me it's maby like once or twice out a week and then his dad takes him to practice and games.. that i do not attend because i really don't like being around his dad.

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Betrayal

I think it’s such a betrayal when my husband continues watching without me a series we started together. Or find a new film and starts watching it without me!! We also watch stuff together but lately he keeps continuing our shows without me and watching new films that he knows I will like without me… and when I tell him it upsets me he says ‘so I can’t watch anything anymore?!’ Or ‘you weren’t that into it anyway’

So tonight I said if you don’t love me anymore and don’t like hanging out with me anymore just say it- I know that dramatic and I was joking but lowekey kinda meant it too like wtf?! I love watching stuff with him I’d always wait to watch together.

Men really suck sometimes… it’s the little things that’s counts

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AITA?

I want to know if I am the asshole in this situation. Please just be honest!
Hubby and I have an 8 month old. Hubby works full time M-F while I'm still on mat leave
His typical shifts are 7-3 but are subject to change with (usually short) notice
We are trying to move house to somewhere 3 hours away, so I am dealing with all of the calls/emails/packing/etc linked with this as I am "available". I have also got a new job so I'm chasing up references, sending required information when I can.
Anyways, that's a bit of backstory. The situation is hubby and I have had an argument tonight and I want some objective opinions lol
He got home from work while baby was napping. When baby woke up, we went shopping. Got home, did dinner, and while I was giving baby hers, hubby comes and says he's going for a bath. I ask him not to as I'm feeling reeeeeeeeeeally burnt out and would like help keeping baby entertained before bed (it's been a veeeeeery long week of teething/travelling/packing so neither of us have rested well)
He gets stroppy and says fine then sits on the sofa playing his phone while I'm giving baby dinner
I'm trying to be calm but I can't at this point. I also get stroppy and ask him to watch baby finish her dinner while I have some headspace
I go upstairs and doomscroll for literally a minute before he brings baby up and says she doesn't want anymore🙃
We end up having a bit of a "to do" there and then about how we're both so tired and worn out.
I tell him that I'm burnt out and I need to rest. I'm exhausted and I just want some help with the baby (no village)
He tells me he's exhausted as well and he just wanted a bath. He could literally lose his job if he smells (which is true. It's a fancy establishment he works in)
And basically, it felt like we were going around in circles trying to "prove" who was more exhausted and needed the time more
I totally understand where he's coming from with needing to wash. I always let him have time and space when he comes home from work because his job can be stressful. I genuinely do try to be as considerate as I can
However, after this long ass week we've had, I'm fucking done. We have no village so I can't ask for help. I'm with the baby M-F from when she wakes until she goes to bed. We take one day each over the weekend to have a lie in and catch up on sleep (which didn't happen last weekend as we were with family)
We have recognised in the last few weeks that we are not on the same page rn (we said we are on the same chapter, but not page) but it just feels like he really doesn't understand how difficult it can be to entertain an 8m/o all day
My new job is WFH so hubby is going part time next month while I go back to work and I know it's the bitch inside me saying this, but I can't wait for him to struggle sometimes and recognise how bloody hard this is
At the end of the day, the baby is the most important thing and she is safe and cared for but I just feel like I could break down. I'm so tired. I'm so done
Thank you for reading all this way because I know I've rambled
He genuinely is a good man that cares for us in ways I don't even think about. But when he's got a bee in his bonnet, he's an ass😂
I guess I wrote this for some validation? Idk🙃
Thanks again because it's helped more than I thought by typing this all out❤️

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Does it get better? (PPD, job loss, loneliness)

Hi… guess you can tell from the title I’m having a hard time. I have an 8month old and suffering from quite severe post partum depression. I don’t have much family and they’re all quite far away. Not too many friends.

My partner and I both lost our jobs a few weeks before the baby was born so I didn’t get maternity leave, I just kept working (freelance) while my partner job searched all day.

I’m extremely burnt out. My partner now works away so I’m with my LO all day every day. The limited childcare we have, I work. I work evenings and weekends when my partner is here. And no end in sight.

At the moment, the baby is clingy so I’m unable to do any hobbies or chores. And I can’t even make my own food without her screaming. She’s not too interested in toys or books so literally climbs me all day so I get touched out.

Still carrying a fair bit of “baby weight” because I can’t workout much at all. And she won’t nap unless she’s attached to me in the carrier.

Going through therapy and on anti depressants. Trying to create structure and routine so that I’m building healthy habits. But I can’t see an end to all this. I miss my career and child-free life. I want to get better. Can someone tell me if they’ve been through similar and come out the other side? Also, how??

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Need to rant😖

I hate I have to share my kid on parent days with my BD. Ex, I hate that he asked to take him on Father’s Day. The last time he’s seen him was 2.5 months ago. He has 2 full weeks to text me, he chose every other weekend for his schedule and he’s been canceling the last 2-3 times… the dad role has been on my husband for the past year and a half.. my bd and been like this, since my son was born. I just wish I could allow the man who deserves it be the one to spend with with my son.

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