AIBU?

I met a new friend 2 years ago and I thought we’d become really close, I have social anxiety so unsure if this skews my view. We were spending every few weeks together with our kids. This year though it tapered off dramatically, and I was starting to feel insecure. I messaged her in oct asking to meet but kids illness got in the way, it was a month later when she messaged saying she thinks about me every day but doesn’t get around to messaging me. I’ve totally put my guard up and I’m not feeling it and just not responded tbh. I’m really tired of trying to find my clan, I just want to be able to enjoy time with people who are on the same wavelength or just want a chat without waiting around. Does this make sense?

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I find this normal for myself and even/especially my closest friends with kids like me. We can go for long periods without having been in touch/talking and remain good friends. We know how much we care about each other. I like you would like to have other Mums that I can stay in touch with more regularly but I just can't find that at all. It's either trying to 'break into' an already well established Mums friendship group or trying to start one off and it never really gets off the ground...

Kids can be sick back to back for months!! I would keep at it. You both sound busy with mum life. But that doesn't mean she doesn't care about you.

I had this happen recently and it turned out my friend was suffering from depression and was struggling with crappy life stuff. I’m terrible at keeping up with friends and we we’re able to reconnect. Don’t lose a friendship over that. Life gets crazy.

Sometimes life is just like that. Dont loose the friendship as she sounds like she misses u as well. As someone said I’ve also had someone disappear out of my life and turns out they were going through depression.

@Naomi that is actually me right now,I am going through depression just didn’t mention that part I txt her this morning and turns out she’s also going through depression too! Appreciate everyone’s responses, honestly it’s so hard when you can’t see straight so I do appreciate that everyone has been kind enough with their responses to me . Thanks

People get busy, kids get ill. The fact that she expressed thinking about you regularly is a sign you’re both equally invested, life just gets in the way.

Honestly same. I’m going thru it as well :( it’s hard to reach out to other people when you’re trying to just keep your head above water.

Maybe give it another shot and see how it feels. You can always cut it away if it doesn't feel right

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