Anyone else feeling anxious/territorial with MIL?
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I can 100% relate with the little “my babyyy” and “oh I’m gonna steal him..” not sitting right 😅 Mine had 3 separate chances to be a mommy to her own kids, her son can’t even recall a favorite meal mom would make. I got upset when I realized one day that the lightbulb didn’t go off on my MIL’s brain that newborns need to eat every 2 hours and have diapers changed. She just held and fed him 2 oz ONCE in the almost 6 hours we had gone to run errands when she offered to watch her grandson cause she’s “so in love”…I instructed her where to find the diapers, wipes, breastmilk, bottles, warmer, filtered water even formula.. and this lady just sat in a rocking chair staring at our baby and was confused when I asked if he gave her any trouble eating or pooped well. Bite your tongue, men turn a blind eye to the MIL buffoonery. I love that you set boundaries; a good trick my pediatrician told me to create space when MIL is around is to wear your baby in a bjorn or wrap.
Oh yes. My MIL gets on me for wanting to have a place for everything, not using cloth diapers and guilts me that we live a plane ride away. They are tough to deal with but I agree the men turn their head to this behavior. I have a son now as well, FTM and will likely be our only child…so I hope the tables don’t turn on me when he’s older!
Completely valid I hate the “my baby” comments so much
my husband gave my MIL her first grandchild as well and she is in love with our baby! And she also calls her “my baby” & “I’m wanna steal you/take you home” & she constantly wants to hold & cuddle with my baby! I feel super territorial & worried about my baby but I think it’s normal bcs I have a good relationship with MIL & it still bothers me when she holds our baby 😂
Oh my gosh totally valid! I have a very similar issue except there’s no trust between my MIL and me. 1- the comments that she is making are not okay. 2- the leaving with him when he is this new is also not okay so good on you for holding your ground. 3- it’s totally natural to be ok with your mom over your SOs mom, simply because of maternal instinct AND the level of trust between you and your own mom.