How to initiate sex

I am in a throuple with a male and female. We have been together for nearly two years I have been with my male partner for nearly 6 years As a threesome we haven’t had sex since February and me and my male partner have done nothing sexual since March Our female partner gave birth in September and I am wanting to get pregnant at some point early next year I am unsure how to initiate sex between us I feel separated from them as we literally never touch each other in anyway that’s not U

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How is your communication with your partners? I personally like to have a point blank conversation with my partners when my needs aren't being met. I ask specifically for what I need. "Hey, I'm feeling xyz, can we try/do ABC so we can get back on track?" Is it just the triad relationship that you feel is lacking but not the individual relationships?

@Heather I feel everything except the intimacy is good right now Terrible communicator really. Have really bad anxiety about asking g for what I need incase I get knocked back

If you get knocked back on this conversation what would you want to do? With just having had a baby it may have changed the dynamics/sex drive some. What can help you get over the anxiety of the conversation? For me it's knowing that the beauty of polyamory doesn't limit me in who can meet my needs.

@Heather it’s more that it changed before she was even born, when they were both like I’m really sexual and want sex every day and then it’s been a year nearly Not sure anything would help. Have rejection sensitive dysphoria we are in a closed throuple

I have that too. Shit sucks it really does. Would it be easier to do the conversation over messages vs orally? Do you want to stay in a closed throuple if your needs aren't being met and nothing changes?

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