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Mommas in their 20’s 🥳

My stepfather is mad that I don’t want my daughter to refer to him as Grandpa

I am 32 weeks pregnant. My mom got married right before I got pregnant and they’ve only been together for a few years. I feel like their relationship isn’t the most stable but I decided to move in with them for a few months so my mom can help me after my baby is born. One day I discovered that for some reason my step father thought he was going to be referred to as “grandpa” by my daughter when she is born. As well as his parents being called great grandma/grandpa. I didn’t know this was going to be a thing as it wasn’t talked to with me. My father and his family are very much in my life and I don’t feel comfortable with my step father having that label as I don’t want my daughter to become attached to someone that has the potential to not be there in the future. My mom ended up telling my step father this (I wish I would’ve but my mom told him before I could). I instantly could tell something was off when he got home as he had an attitude with me. The very next day he was still acting very disrespectful towards me and my mom told me that she told him my decision the day before and I realized that’s why he was acting like that. She said his feelings were hurt but I honestly don’t think it should be a big thing as I’m only trying to protect my daughter. Yesterday my step father apologized for the way he was acting and I explained that my decision was not personal but more because I don’t know how the future could go. My brother ended up getting treated terribly by his step father (who had adopted him) after my mom divorced him and it affected him a lot as a child. My step father explained how his friends didn’t agree with my decision and that he didn’t understand my decision but respected it. Later that day my step father was pissed about something (I’m not sure what) and was screaming at my mother. I walked out the kitchen as I was just getting something and he yelled at me unprovoked about my decision. I told him it’s not personal and he continued to yell at me and I told him he needed to leave and he started calling me names and yelling at me in front of my mother. The next morning my mom tried to justify his behavior by saying he’s struggling with back pain from a procedure. I told him the way he acted was not okay at all especially when he cannot control his anger and he is not respecting my parenting decisions. I told my mom that I am not comfortable living with someone who acts that way and that he is proving exactly why I didn’t want him to have the grandfather label. I feel like my step father is not respecting my decisions whatsoever and my mom is choosing him over me. This isn’t the first time he’s lost his temper and I’m sure it won’t be the last. I don’t want him to be anywhere near my daughter when she is born anymore. I just want to know if anybody else agrees with my decision since my own mother & sister are just brushing off his actions.