How would you feel if your baby daddy isn’t showing signs of wanting to be in your child’s life while he’s working and not making any changes with it??
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And please don’t go back or have any other kids with him, try to learn from this and move on, some on and off relationship with added kids seems like it would be worse for you as it seems he is set in his ways since it’s been a couple years.
I am confused. Are the 2 kids his?? And di you mean he's too busy working to spend time with his kid?? Because that's bs tbh. He just doesn't want to be in y'all lives unfortunately and his behaviours shoutell you all you need to know. I would start making plans to be a single mum tbh. Find out if he's willing to help financially if you need it and take it if he gives it but expect nothing more and expect push back too. But I'd end it asafp. Can't force it. Any bad energy for my bub and I cut it out immediately.
She’s gonna cry if he hasn’t ever made any effort to establish a bond. I’d just cut him off. Better that the kid has a dad fully out of the picture than a dad who is just out of reach because he wants nothing to do with his own kid. That’s hurtful.
@Ariel thank you! and tbh, I don’t force him but just tell when he wants and he askes when he can but when I give him the chance/opportunity, he doesn’t use it. And trust me, I’m not planning nor thinking too after this second baby. Not wanting another for a loooonngg time. (I was almost gonna get rid of this 2nd baby at the start. Because I wasn’t sure I wanted)
@Lav yes he is his. Both. He cares about work & money. Been like that ever since my first. In between time not work and not been able to afford anything. He doesn’t look after himself nor his needs, so I know he wouldn’t be able too with these kids. Already not together as I put on my post.
Does he provide child support?
@Dana Lew he doesn’t but gives money when he can. (Every 2weeks)
I wouldn’t make it your responsibility to make him have a relationship with her, or baby. It’ll just make the child suffer (she clearly cries anytime she sees him, and he doesn’t wanna be there and probably isn’t very present with her) In my experience, when you try to force the issue, you are just forcing your child to see someone who doesn’t want them. I was quite lucky to find an amazing man after my first relationship, and he has since adopted my daughter who is 3 now, and we have a baby together. Bio dad never changed, we divorced before she was born and he has never seen her other than photos. Think of what will help your girl the most long term, not what is socially or technically the right thing to do.