My boyfriend of almost 2 years has never said he loves me and I’m worried we should break up

Do you think there’s something in his background that prevents him from getting too close to people? It’s interesting to me that he would be in multiple different relationships with people he doesn’t love, or doesn’t see himself falling in love with. 2 years is a really long time to spend with someone that you just “like.” Is he afraid to verbalize the feelings maybe but actually does have them? I’d be trying to figure out the root of the issue to some extent before breaking it off, but there is definitely something off here in my opinion.

Being emotionally devoid is not a flex. From time he told you he’s never been in love I would have been out. Now it looks like you’ve wasted 2 years of your life due to this life lesson. Oh well, better 2 years than 20, silver lining and all that.

The fact that you feel this way enough to type it out shows you’re coming to the end. You’ve been together almost 2 years, you’re almost 30 and you’ve got a child that’s he’s met ‘a few times’ I’m sorry but that doesn’t say serious relationship to me. Move on. You never know what’s round the corner, and if he fights for you then maybe that’s something but I somehow doubt it 🤷🏽‍♀️

lol if your almost 30, how old is this dude? To have never once felt in love enough to say the words I love you?

I think it’s time to sit him down and ask him straight out if he loves you. If the answer is anything but a definite, immediate “yes, absolutely!” then it’s time to move on.

Although if it is yes and he simply can’t or won’t express it, that’s a whole ‘nother can of worms.

2 years is more than enough time for him to know his feelings about you. And if it’s not, then he likely has issues that are beyond your help, and should definitely not be your responsibility to try and figure out for him.

You deserve to know you are loved, and feel it with zero doubts.

92% vote you should end it, that tells you the answer

He doesn’t have a troubled past or anything. His father died 6 months before we met, but he’s open with his feelings about him. It’s also been my choice not to have him around my child so much. I like to take my time… . But I am not sure if he has any fear of falling or anything he is a great boyfriend honestly. I am happy with him and I do want a future with him and it’s not that I don’t feel he doesn’t love me. He would be a great actor. I’ve never thought of asking but I don’t think I should have to either

he’s 32. He has a bit of a past. Meaning he was a bit of a whore and was in the army for most of his 20s.

LOL he’s in love with a man (twas a joke about army guys being gay)

I didn’t think him not being in love was a bad thing

2 years is a long time to be in a lukewarm relationship. It sounds like you need to prioritize what you want because you deserve to have your emotional needs met. Have an honest chat with him. I’m a firm believer in there are no mixed signals. It’s either an enthusiastic yes and everything besides that is a no. Your relationship deserves some clarity.

the last time we’ve even talked about that was when we still casually getting to know each other. So I do wonder if I just missed all the signs 😞

At 32, boasting that he’s never told a girl that he loves her as he’s never been in love - you also mention that he slept around a lot in the past but yet you think he doesn’t have a troubled past? 😂

Time to take off those blinkers Incog. Sounds like he’s got attachment and trust issues. If he has never uttered the words ‘I love you’ in 2 years, what makes you think he’s actually in love with you? Why don’t you ask him in the morning? Hey X, do you love me? See how he reacts when you catch him off guard.

Have YOU ever told him you love him? What’s his reaction been?

I don’t think he was boasting.. when we were getting to know one another, I asked him. I have a child already and was already in a long term relationship, but I knew he was mostly single and pretty free to do whatever he wanted due to not having any children or other responsibilities. And we all slept around. Most of us have a past. I meant more so like his family is wholesome and he didn’t go through anything traumatic. Idk how you got trust and attachment issues from this… you know no context of the relationship outside of him never saying it. And I’ve never said it because he hasn’t

Babe, you need to stop wasting your time. You deserve a man who has the capability of showing his feelings. No matter what they have been through. It is not your responsibility to change him, bc tbh you can’t. We won’t be able to change your mind either, but know you DO deserve someone better. Pls stop wasting your time. Also, your kid deserves a man that can show them loving someone is ok, not the opposite!🩷