Men as a whole won't stand up for women because they care more about what other men think

Yep! If they think speaking up to defend a woman will make them seem "uncool" to other men around them they will either silently comply or even join in.

100%, I remember being at work and one of the chefs was screaming at me, swearing at me for something that was so silly, in front of all the other chefs and no one actually said anything at all. They all afterwards said it was out of order etc but not once did any of them have my back.

I hate to make generalizations, but I genuinely feel the majority of men are much more open about their selfishness than women are and a lot of their behaviors are ego driven. So 100% yes. How can this benefit him or make him feel good? Basically

"blahblahblah" has me dying

gotta throw it in there for the "nOt mY mAn" crowd 😂

See… in my personal experience I disagree
But I have noticed that the internet demonstrates a different reality than what I personally experience

I don't think that's the ONLY reason. There's a reason why no country has reached gender equality.
There's a reason why 1 woman every 4 days was murdered by a current or former partner last year (in Australia).

When we live under a patriarchy, people will act in a way that benefits them, and doesn't affect them personally.

Yup! During my time in the military I was harassed by so many guys and then after I got out or they’d moved on to a new duty station I got multiple DMs apologizing for how I was treated by other men and for never standing up for me. But not one man in the moment ever did in front of the others

I asked chatGPT:

# Social and Cultural Factors
1. *Societal norms and expectations*: Traditional masculinity often emphasizes traits like strength, dominance, and emotional suppression. This can lead men to prioritize their own status and reputation over supporting women.
2. *Patriarchal systems*: Men may be socialized to maintain and benefit from patriarchal systems, which can perpetuate inequality and silence women's voices.
3. *Lack of education and awareness*: Some men may not fully understand the issues women face or the importance of feminism. Education and awareness can help bridge this gap.

# Personal and Psychological Factors
1. *Fear of vulnerability*: Men may fear being seen as vulnerable or weak if they express emotions or support women's causes.
2. *Privilege and entitlement*: Some men may feel entitled to their privilege and resistant to relinquishing power or status.
3. *Internalized misogyny*: Men may internalize societal misogyny, leading them to subconsciously perpetuate sexist attitudes and behaviors.

# Institutional and Structural Factors
1. *Institutional sexism*: Men may be part of institutions or systems that perpetuate sexism, making it difficult for them to challenge the status quo.
2. *Power dynamics*: Men may hold positions of power, making it challenging for them to acknowledge and address the inequalities faced by women.
3. *Lack of accountability*: Men may not be held accountable for their actions or inactions, allowing them to avoid taking responsibility for supporting women.

# What Can We Do?
1. *Encourage education and awareness*: Educate men about the importance of feminism, the issues women face, and the benefits of equality.
2. *Promote healthy masculinity*: Encourage men to redefine traditional masculinity and adopt healthier, more inclusive attitudes.
3. *Create safe spaces for discussion*: Provide opportunities for men to discuss their concerns, fears, and questions about supporting women.
4. *Hold men accountable*: Encourage men to take responsibility for their actions and support women in their personal and professional lives.
5. *Celebrate male allies*: Recognize and celebrate men who actively support women's causes and promote equality.

By addressing these complex factors and working together, we can create a more inclusive and equitable society where men stand up for women and support their rights and empowerment.

Here are some sources that support the information I provided:

# Social and Cultural Factors
1. *Societal norms and expectations*: "Masculinity and Violence" by the World Health Organization (2019) [1]
2. *Patriarchal systems*: "Patriarchy and Male Dominance" by the United Nations Entity for Gender Equality and the Empowerment of Women (2018) [2]
3. *Lack of education and awareness*: "Engaging Men and Boys to Achieve Gender Equality" by the United Nations Population Fund (2018) [3]

# Personal and Psychological Factors
1. *Fear of vulnerability*: "The Mask of Masculinity" by Lewis Howes (2017) [4]
2. *Privilege and entitlement*: "Privilege: A Reader" by Michael S. Kimmel and Abby L. Ferber (2014) [5]
3. *Internalized misogyny*: "Internalized Misogyny: A Conceptual Framework" by the Journal of Women, Politics & Policy (2018) [6]

# Institutional and Structural Factors
1. *Institutional sexism*: "Institutional Sexism: A Review of the Literature" by the Journal of Women, Politics & Policy (2017) [7]
2. *Power dynamics*: "Power and Gender" by the World Bank (2019) [8]
3. *Lack of accountability*: "Accountability for Women's Rights" by the United Nations Entity for Gender Equality and the Empowerment of Women (2019) [9]

# What Can We Do?
1. *Encourage education and awareness*: "Engaging Men and Boys to Achieve Gender Equality" by the United Nations Population Fund (2018) [3]
2. *Promote healthy masculinity*: "The Man They Wanted Me to Be" by Jared Yates Sexton (2019) [10]
3. *Create safe spaces for discussion*: "Creating Safe Spaces for Men to Discuss Masculinity" by the Good Men Project (2020) [11]

These sources provide a starting point for understanding the complex issues surrounding why some men may not stand up for women. By exploring these topics further, we can work towards creating a more inclusive and equitable society.

References:

[1] World Health Organization. (2019). Masculinity and Violence.

[2] United Nations Entity for Gender Equality and the Empowerment of Women. (2018). Patriarchy and Male Dominance.

[3] United Nations Population Fund. (2018). Engaging Men and Boys to Achieve Gender Equality.

[4] Howes, L. (2017). The Mask of Masculinity.

[5] Kimmel, M. S., & Ferber, A. L. (2014). Privilege: A Reader.

[6] Journal of Women, Politics & Policy. (2018). Internalized Misogyny: A Conceptual Framework.

[7] Journal of Women, Politics & Policy. (2017). Institutional Sexism: A Review of the Literature.

[8] World Bank. (2019). Power and Gender.

[9] United Nations Entity for Gender Equality and the Empowerment of Women. (2019). Accountability for Women's Rights.

[10] Sexton, J. Y. (2019). The Man They Wanted Me to Be.

[11] Good Men Project. (2020). Creating Safe Spaces for Men to Discuss Masculinity.

Usually True. They barely stand up for their moms , daughters, wives, they’re worried about themselves first and how it makes them look 😆 i remember one time a guy said to my ex “your girl is ugly as fuck” and he didn’t defend me. All he said was “bro your moms ugly” like damn you must agree w him if that’s all you have to say Lol

*boys won’t stand up for women because they care more about what other men think

There, fixed it

Yep! Totally, they don’t want to be called a simp nowadays and back when I was young they’d get called pussywhipped lol and it’s so stupid because standing up for people typically doesn’t hold a negative connotation but it does when men see other men stand up for women.