Ferber method

We started the ferber method about 2 weeks ago and we've already seen improvements. It's brutal in the first days😢 at least for us it was, but it works. Just keep with it. If that doesn't work or you find it's too much for you or your baby try the chair method. https://www.whattoexpect.com/first-year/sleep/chair-method-sleep-training/

That’s a cruel method, I am completely against it. I waited 4 month till the sleep of my LO improved. The 4 most difficult months where I could barely function during the day and now her sleep is good. Would never do Ferber method

We did modified Ferber with my eldest. She was waking between 5/6 times per night and took an hour to settle at bedtime. I couldn’t sit and listen to her cry for the Ferber suggested times, it was too long and it broke my heart. We started at 1 minute of letting her cry before settling and only went up to leaving her 4 minutes maximum. Took about 2 weeks then bedtime was down to 10 minutes of settling and she was waking once in the night. As Nicoleta said the first few days are brutal but it really did work for us.

@Imelda Ok, so what did you do to improve your babies sleep? Do you rock to sleep?

Yes I rocked her to sleep and lately it became soo bad, she would push me, arching her back, crying non stop and staying awake till 1-2 am. We were coo-sleeping. So we decided to move her to her room and rocked her in a stroller till she fell asleep then moved her to her bed. Changed the naps during the day. The latest she will have a nap is 2am so it leaves a long gap between. Then the last meal she will have is at 5:30-6 pm and after that she plays a lot and she gets tired around 8:30-9:00 pm and will fall asleep waking only 1-2 times a night and falling in sleep within minutes after waking up. After that she wakes up at 7:30-8 in the morning. This worked for us, hoping it continues like this 🙏

@Imelda waiting 4 months where you barely function?That's not very good either. You need your rest as much as your baby. You may not agree with it but it works for other parents. Every parent will try and see what works best for them and their babies. We never did co-sleeping. He was in his next to me cot and then moved to his own room/cot.

@Nicoleta I won’t agree with any form of sleep training but there are other methods other than Ferber’s method that are more gentle and acceptable and work for a lot of parents. That would be better for the baby when choosing for a sleep training method. I’ve read a lot of bad things about Ferber method so I am 100% against it.

@Imelda i understand your point of view. Like i said what works for you doesn't work for me and vice-versa. It works for me. Ruth just said it works for her. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and actions

I will always been on the no ferber method, or any sleep training for that matter. I didn’t use it with my first who is soon to be 3 and won’t be using with my 11 month old. But you do what you need too with your family. I will say hindsight is a beautiful thing and I remember thinking when my first was little he’d never sleep through, but he did when he was ready. My 11 month usually has me up 5/6 times a night, but the past few days he’s started sleeping until 3.30/4am and having a feed and going back to sleep, which I have of course loved and that’s without any training! I think babies get there when they’re ready but that’s my opinion. You must decide what’s best for you and your family 🫶🏻

Personally i found the ferber method worked for us when i began getting my LB to nap in his cot rather than the pram! Of course it isnt nice listening to them crying but i found with every nap/sleep the crying reduced & eventually stopped x

@Roisin our little one was used to getting a bottle during the night if he woke up crying. We thought that if he had that he'd go back to sleep for the rest of the night. He didn't 😑 mind you that he has plenty of food during day. So we started to offer water instead and he started waking up less but still use the ferber method to put him to sleep.