Sore but only where my internal stitches where and not the epi site. Pelvic floor exercises help, I didn’t realise how long I’d need to keep them up. Sex possible but not yet comfortable at the beginning, even with lube. I guess it’s a big cut and a huge trauma, but would like to know when it’s supposed to feel normal again!
1st time was episiotomy this time was a 2nd degree tear (very bad). dr said episiotomy’s heals quicker bc it’s a straight cut. it takes a while but it does start feeling normal again. sitting on hard surfaces will be slightly uncomfortable for a while. this time took longer for me but it’s starting to feel okay again. i think mentally you focus on it alot the first time aswell
I’m in the exact same boat, nearly 11 weeks, traumatic birth too and mine is quite sore at random points. I’ve got a doctors appointment to look at it next week to check it’s healing ok as it does keep getting quite uncomfortable