Lip tie found late

My son is four and I’m just finding his lip tie. I had him checked for it THREE times in the hospital since I knew it’s pretty common in my family.
We’ve been brushing his teeth every night I’m I’ve been noticing his front tooth is a bit misshaped? So I inspected more tonight to make sure he wasn’t getting a cavity or something but no he has a terrible lip tie!
I feel terrible for only noticing now but I also trusted the professionals to tell me if he had one and I asked several times to be sure!
We had a terrible breastfeeding journey and I ended up drying up completely around four months pp. We were both relieved! It was so hard. Now I find all of those tears and frustrations could’ve been prevented if someone had taken me seriously!?! I feel like I missed out on something really special with my baby and I’m just mad and grieving how it could’ve/should’ve been. I thought I was just not built for that part of motherhood. Has anyone else experienced this?

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I AM THE SAME WAY!! My son (2yo) would not latch on after birth and I tried so hard thinking something was wrong with me. I asked them to check for lip and tongue tie and they said he was fine. At his most recent dentist appointment she told me that he definitely has a tongue and lip tie and that at least it was caught now and we can get it fixed soon.

They don’t do much for a lip tie (in the UK). Usually it matures and moves up/makes no difference - I can see by your son he has no gap so it’s not a significant one.

My breastfeeding journey wasn’t the best due to the tie but it is what it is x

Also the reason they don’t touch them in the UK as snipping can lead to a very gummy smile

really ? Now I’m wondering if I had one and they messed up on mine cause I have a gummy smile 😭

Yesss my son had a lip and tongue tie breast feeding was hell. Had it snipped around 13m really annoyed aswell. Stopped feeding around 11m so pissed because I kept asking professionals.

Hey 👋🏻 dental assistant here you might want to follow up with your dentist there seems to also be a cavity in the middle of his two front teeth or may be a large chunk of calculus maybe if you could put a different angle picture in the comments but definitely try to get in to see the dentist 🦷 🪥😁

My daughter was born with this and it was missed. I was laughed out the door by my GP though and said unless it’s affecting her speech or ability to eat then there’s nothing they can do…

hey that’s was my thought! I love heard lip ties can cause tooth decay in some cases?

His tooth has grown around the tie but i think you’re right! As soon as my work insurance kicks in I’ll be taking him! Just can’t afford it right now! Still paying off my own trip from last year 😭

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