Sleep training

I want to start sleep training but not sure what to use, My LO has set naps, he wakes around 7:30am then has as sleep around 9-10/11 then his next nap is around 1-2/3 and then a last nap at 4:30-5:15 and then bed at 7 his still waking for one fed a night at his teething so has been having abit more unsettled nights x

No ‘training’ but since 3mo, we put her down in the crib when completely awake at nap time/sleep time and let her soothe herself to sleep. Not all babies have the temperament to self soothe though, this is just what works for her. If she gets upset (which is rare now), I take her out and we cuddle until she’s settled then pop her back down. At first it was a lot of soothing in the crib, eg stroking face, shushing to sleep, but now she cries to be put in the crib when she’s tired🤣I found if I held her till she was drowsy then popped her in the crib, the change of environment/being moved around stressed her out and she’d cry, so now she’s completely awake when put down so she doesn’t get unsettled. My LO starts showing signs of being sleepy around 1h 30m into wake window. She will move less, yawn, space out. That’s when I change her nappy, take her upstairs and pop her in the crib. Usually 4 naps a day. We contact nap for at least 1 tho because I’d miss her cuddles if not😢💗

I was gonna use Ferber method BUT I downloaded the huckleberry app and since I did, he goes to sleep on his own in his bassinet with minimal interaction/assistance from me. It’s only been a week. Before, he would only go to sleep being nursed/rocked. Now he doesn’t wanna be held to sleep and he knows when it’s bed time now. I honestly still can’t believe how easy it was for us. The app tells me exactly the perfect time to put him down 10 mins before his “sweet spot” and everytime, he will be asleep by that time. It’s been game changing. I didn’t realise how wrong I had his nap times before and I didn’t even know he was overtired until he was fussing trying to get to sleep. Now he goes to sleep with VERY minimal fussiness, rarely cries. Just kinda turns his head and off to sleep. He’s generally wide awake when I lay him down but now that he’s used to that routine he instantly gets tired and goes straight to sleep

@Sera Kay ✨ did you buy plus or premium x

I won’t be sleep training I’ll be following my son’s lead. I pay for huckleberry for the sweet spot and I rock or feed him to sleep. His sleep is a pile of shit at night and we have to bedshare to get any as his sleep cycles aren’t linked at all but he’ll sort it out in his own time. I’m not sleep training him for something that’s normal anyway x

Did you buy plus or premium @Skye? X

@Ruth I’ve got plus right now! I think the only difference between that and premium was the personalised sleep plan and atm I don’t think we even need it! X

@Hannah plus x

@Sera Kay ✨ can I ask was he ok with the cot prior? My little one is only going down being fed on me but since using the app she rarely cries, I think I’m catching her nap times right. I just struggle to get her in the cot but I’ve been leaving it till after I’m feeding her and then she cries.

@Kerenza I only ever put him in his bassinet asleep prior to this. He was also feeding every 1.5 hours and now he actually lasts every 3 hours I feel like every aspect changed. But beforehand I wouldn’t have even dare put him in his bassinet if he wasn’t already asleep lol. When I first started I wouldn’t rock his bassinet or pat his lower back to sleep. A week later he will lay there and go straight to sleep without any assistance. I think I am very lucky but this come after MONTHS of feeding every aspect changed 1.5 hours and no sleep.

@Skye this is so refreshing to hear. I'm in exactly the same spot as you. I'm not interested at all in self soothing and I'll happily cuddle and rock him to sleep for as long as he needs me. And at night I also have had to bring him in bed with me for the past week as he just wakes up every hour and will only sleep when he's close to me. I figure it is part of the 4 month sleep regression and he'll adjust back and get better with it in time.

@Skye I’d love to give her all the contact naps in the world and spend ages rocking her to sleep but I have a high needs toddler so I just cannot do it. My toddler also wakes lots in the night so cannot be rocking both back to sleep at the same time. I use huckleberry and find the sweet spot so helpful.

@Sera Kay ✨ I know it must of been horrendous but I’m so glad to hear that it too was months. We’ve been in this phase for well over a month now! Approaching two! I’m worrying I’m making bad habits as I’ve tried everything and it’s resulted in feeding to sleep. Really pleased for you x

Oh bless you that is hard! In that case I’d recommend potentially joining the Facebook group ‘beyond sleep training’ and asking them for some guidance? They’re really good at recommending gentle alternatives! X

@Kim glad I could give even a bit of reassurance it’s just so awful when you’re so sleep deprived I know :( I’m desperately just trying to ride the wave myself now. Best of luck with everything we’re all doing the best we can I’m sure x