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Sometimes the cot can be a bit big and they feel lost in it. A moses basket or next to me can be better for the early days. Make sure they are close to you as well. Also you could try sleeping or wearing the bed sheet during the day and put it on at night so the cot smells like you. It's a really hard stage but persevere as it will be better in the long run for you if you can get them to go down in the cot x

We had the exact same issue for the first week or two. We swapped the next to me crib for the Moses basket for a few weeks - I think she was feeling a bit overwhelmed by the bigger crib and preferred being more cocooned in her Moses basket. We also got one of those microwaveable heat packs and would put that into the crib whilst changing/feeding so it was warmer when I transferred her. Congratulations and be kind to yourself!

The cot will feel huge compared to when she was inside you she will just want to be on you as she knows that's home. Have you tried swaddling so shes wrapped up like a cocoon? We used the moses basket in the day downstairs and next to me crib for night time but just wrapped up tightly This helped with some white noise of heartbeat/womb sound for us. Be kind to yourself good luck its very early days and its new to you and her xx

We had the same the first few days with our first until the midwife suggested putting the carrycot of our pram into the next to me and she slept so much better in that. We also played womb sound white noise. This time round we've bought a najell sleepnest which we'll put in the next to me, just waiting for baby girl to actually arrive!

Congratulations on your baby.. unfortunately I think this is just a thing and they will eventually grow out of it. My baby is 10 weeks and we had this for the first 4 weeks, she would never sleep unless it was on us and then one night she randomly just slept in her next to be crib and has done since. It didn’t work for us but the health visitor recommended a swaddle and also putting something of mine in the cot for baby to have my scent with her. It is so so hard but it will get better.

This is perfectly normal! We had this for a few days until we started using a sleeping bag with hands in!

I used to have a very soft thin blanket, I’d hold baby after a feed upright on my chest and lay the blanket over them and then when settled I’d put them down on top of the soft blanket and tuck it round the mattress like a sheet on the bed so the transition from being held to being laid down kind of felt the same if that makes sense? Also I used a hot water bottle to create a warm patch on the cot for them to lay on- remove it before you lay baby down, that sometimes helped

Totally normal ride it out. She's just been born

My girl didn’t like the next2me until around 6-7 weeks old, she slept in moses basket until then x

We said we wouldn’t get a Moses basket because there was no point as they grow out of them quickly. How wrong we were to not get one! 4wks in and we ended up buying one! Girly slept a little better and was happy in it x

Moses Basket ☺️💗

Used a sleepyhead also (as above controversial) inside the cot. worked a treat

Biggest lie ever new mums are sold ‘Here are lots of expensive items babies love to sleep in - cot, Moses, next to me, snuz pod’ To only find baby wants to sleep on or next to you! Totally normal. Have you got white noise? Xx

The first few nights are a complete write-off as far as routines are concerned 😅 my little one is 5 weeks old and we are only just getting into some kind of bedtime routine. He has a next to me crib with the side flipped down, I just hoik him over onto my side of the bed when he wants feeding in the night, we do a nappy change first as he hates it and needs to be fed to settle back down, then always side-lying breastfeeding in the middle of the night (much more comfortable for both of us!), we bring him into bed with us towards the end of the night (like 5-6am) as his Dad stays awake while baby naps next to me in the big bed and I can squeeze in a couple more hours kip! Are you swaddling her or using a baby sleeping bag? My boy seems to love his sleeping bag but doesn’t like being swaddled!

Just wanted to say I remember the exact same my first night home with a newborn, but by I think 3rd night home he was doing some decent stints in the Moses basket. Hang on in there, it gets easier xx