So my older sister wants to see me after 7 years of no contact (she never reaches out or reply when I have)

I am currently in no contact with my entire side of the family! It's been 8yrs now I have no regrets! Always remember never to change your gathering for someone else's schedule! You do what makes you happy not anyone else!!

Put it this way my family has never met nor do they know I had two more kids!!

@Kory🌺🤙🏼 I told my uncle who told my aunt and my sisters found out that way , and idk how to honestly feel about her coming I feel like she doing it for some reason..... like if my aunt kicks her out ? Or something like that since she had a chance to see me when I had my baby shower and now she wants to ? I have a feeling when I wake up tommrow moring I'll get a message saying oh I'm sick oh my leg hurt oh I'm dieing 😒 she does when she don't want to go into work 😒😒 n the dogs have Anixety pissed me off cuase I gave her a chance to finally see me and repair what left of our relationship like how me n my aunt is fixing our relationship (we are so alike that we butted head when I lived with her n my sister after our mom passed and our dad also passed years before that that's why we went to our aunt) my little sister and I didn't have a bad relationship we just went lc for the years since her school my work hour fucked up talking with each other since I work nights , and she now works but not nights

but i have a bad feeling why my older sister wants to see me and meet my son (possible my fiance if he gets off work before they leave)

As the oldest of my siblings and have gone no contact with my parents and sisters I would say if the energy is not reciprocated then what is there to talk about? I don’t need to beg or ask if a person wants to be invested or a part of one’s life they care about they would make an effort, no excuses. I’d give the shirt off my back for my sisters but would that be overlooked or brushed off most likely do I have a codependency, no I got over it and set boundaries. I love them dearly would do anything to make sure their good. But am I going to put myself down because they don’t put any effort as aunties with my son nah because Ive come to realize the power of keeping my circle tight. I’m heavy on bringing the love and reciprocating it, with baby due in July they’ll get the news in the mail from me. But am I gonna fly there an make a big reveal or send invites to a baby shower uh uh I’m good, spend the baby shower with people that have nothing but unwavering love and show up day n night

@Kayla I invited her only to be nice for the baby shower since she was texting me more but I have hear from in in months since then, I honestly don't know why she wants to see me

id say go into the situation like she's not coming that way you can focus on the important things!! The sad thing about other people is they feel they can come in and out when they want to and expect us to just bend over and deal with it!! If she comes then great she made a step to rebuild if she's on some bs then shut it down right away and redirect the conversation to the event otherwise she can leave!! People like that love the attention so try not to give her any!

I’m with @Kory🌺🤙🏼 and say 💯 and we will say months but we know it’s years and for that if she shows nice but don’t direct your energy to something that’s not invested into your life but just showing for a good time, since other people she may know… I do hope you have a amazing baby shower but don’t let it dampen your time or mood; but I do want to say if at any point she makes you feel uncomfortable give her the boot kindly (would hate for her to make it somehow about her in some way when it’s your baby shower) so if that happens redirect like Kory said and have someone do the escort cause no one should come in between a happy day for you family or not.

@Kory🌺🤙🏼 she came and the reason why she's been like this is cuase My ex 🤔😒 he didn't do shit was a nice guy honestly I think she was jealous that I got a man like him

@Kayla she came said she'll be in my life again since my ex is out of it

Wait come again 🙃😂 like where is the honesty or brutal sisterly love like hey if you didn’t like the dude and you went yearrrrrs not talking to me over a dude that you think wasn’t good lay the facts and stand your argument not as I’m bringing new life; I’d be critical on seeing the interaction because if your guts telling you she’s giving undercover hater (underlying jealousy) trust your instincts an intuition and have set boundaries and don’t give out too much of your business obv. If she ask... And nothings wrong with setting boundaries if she’s going to make more effort now trying to come back around it’s should be clear with the communication. Because if the energy isn’t giving then due your diligence and get the space you deserve. No in and out your either put the effort or move on, I just find it crazy she wouldn’t have had some intervention if she didn’t like that ex much to cut you off..

@Kayla I bet anything that she thought inwas having my exs kid not my fiancé's till she saw the pics n stuff n I'm 100% sure she was hoping to get my new guys attention by not wearing a bra , Itty bitty tities need a bra in public and to make a good 1st impression my fiance already doesn't like her and sees why me n her never got along for meeting her once and her bearly talking

See 🤣🤌🏽 she really play Ed herself and tried it the jealousy is real that but that bad energy around you or even entertain it, if she wasn’t happy to hold my son give me my child back from your sour patch behind excuse me 😂 but that’s ridiculous she seems like the type to purposely wear white to your wedding and play like it’s not a big deal personally don’t see her sticking around or making an effort since she sees your clearly well off about to be married and have started your family MEANWHILE she’s I’m assuming single and would make sense/show from her actions gives jealousy most def but know you don’t deserve that. (Like I said earlier I’m the oldest sibling an couldn’t imagine being one to look down on a spouse unless it was DV or he or she wasn’t treating them right but to also put myself out there visibly in front of said spouse is just diabolical behavior