Starting Over

And necessities

Give it to donation or someone in need . Maybe a friend . It won’t feel as bad if u sell or give it to a good cause. This happened to me recently and I’m still grieving and feeling resentful… My bf is able to trash everything without a care in the world and he did. I was so hurt bc all those things meant a lot to me. I asked him why didn’t he at least give it to donation or someone in need and he said he didn’t give a shit about others… I hate how he thinks. And I’m traumatized to make another move with him bc of how immature that was. Lots of valuable stuff thrown in the trash. I was gone while he was moving but I left everything packed and he knew I didn’t want stuff thrown but instead donated. I don’t respect him for that

Why do you have to leave everything behind? Why wouldn't you pack everything you own & take it with you?

On the other hand , we are now in our new place and it’s very minimalist which it brings a different level of peace . I don’t want to have a lot of things in this place bc of what I went thru. Maybe once I move on I’ll feel comfortable adding more stuff I tried to understand how my bf is able to not be attached or have sentimental feeling towards our stuff so I can become like him. I kind of envy him for having that ability… it’s sad but it makes going thru life easier to not have ur feelings attached. He’s a very cold person not very sentimental with most things.

@Rachel I just know I'm going to sound like a crazy person to some people, but we're looking to flee the country in search of asylum. What's happening in the US is only going to escalate until it's too late to get out. My family is of middle eastern decent, and many of my family members, including myself are LGBTQ. We are not safe where we are, and it's only going to continue to get worse in the coming months and years, so we're preparing for the possibility of just having to grab what we can and go.

I'd bring things that absolutely cannot be replaced, like photo albums. Or at least digitize them.

@Luz I'm so sorry that happened to you. From the sound of it, that doesn't seem like a healthy, respectful partnership. We will try to sell and donate what we can, but it's kind of a situation where we might not have the time to do much more than get our things in order over the next couple of weeks, and grab our bags and go.

I wish u best of luck on ur new journey. Wish u didn’t have to go thru that

We moved from PA to AR in two weeks where we packed the smaller uhaul we could trailer and our sedan car with two toddlers at the time. We didn’t bring any furniture besides two tvs, just our clothes, I do have a personal sentimental portion I must take wherever. Documents, clothes, daily care, kitchen eatware (4 plates, 4 sets of silverware type), a box of non perishable goods and I think that was it basically

Just enough to be comfortable, we acquired some stuff here as i go on marketplace but I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. You could try the pawn shop if anything’s expensive, call first see what they take you never know what’s accepted anything helps tho. Best of luck and try to look up this is a fresh start only up from here for your family❤️

I’ve had to do this fleeing DV, all I can say is it gets better. Take all the photos you can and what you can capture or carry and know far better lies ahead than behind. 8 years later I can’t even remember most of what I lost and what I do, there are pictures to remind me saved to a cloud. Sending love and positivity.

Save anything that can't be replaced and is small or easily portable, like photos. Digitizing them is a good idea, even taking a picture of them with your phone can preserve a photograph 💓

You can't take it with you when your gone..might as well detach now