Ive been upset when someone has said “my baby” when it sure as h*ll isnt their baby

I would just class it as an affectionate term, it’s not actually her baby and she knows that. It wouldn’t bother me

I wouldn’t be bothered, it’s not that serious to me. I actually kinda like it because I feel it shows how much love they have for my children and that’s important to me.

It’s a normal endearing thing family members and others say to babies. Don’t overthink it, it wasn’t a slight against you I promise. I find it sweet when people say that to my babes, and I say it to the babies in our family and friend groups as well. Very common.

That’s never bothered me. But I understand it bothers some.
Like the other comment said I like it because it shows that they look at my son as if he’s their own. I love knowing that he’s loved 🥰 I’ll even say things like “hey, get your baby” even though he’s my son😂

I've never understood why people get so vexed by this, why? My MIL says "my baby" too, and honestly I find it endearing! OF COURSE she and I know that she's MY baby 😅

i think it depends on the relationship you have with your MIL or whoever is saying it. there is certain people i would hate saying it and others i wouldn’t mind.

This really irritates me when people have said that about my son. Unless you are their mum or dad they aren't your baby

Depends. As an endearing term not so much but if it’s consistent… 🤷‍♀️ my mother often asks me “how are my babies?” Meaning me and my unborn baby lol. Sometimes I’m bothered but I understand it’s just her affection

I think it’s nice when people say that to a baby, it shows they have lots of love for them and I think it’s important for them to have family members who love them wholesomely

I think that’s stemming from some insecurity which is perfectly okay because being a mum is tough with a lot of emotions involved but it’s just a term of endearment

To me, it depends on how they act. For example, hearing my husband's grandma say this doesn't bother me at all. Hearing his sister say it, on the other hand, absolutely makes me see red. The difference is that his grandma is respectful of boundaries, while there have been times his sister has literally stared me dead in the face and went against what she just heard me say. So, to me, it seems like one says it from a place of affection, and the other says it from a place of wanting to be in control, if that makes sense.

I’m with you here. I know it doesn’t make sense for this to be upsetting but it feels very possessive and entitled to me and leaves me with an unreasonable amount of feeling upset. I feel like it’s a normal thing to say but I’ve never used “my” to describe any child but my own, so I feel like others don’t deserve to use that term.

My in-laws use that term all the time and it actually bothers me a lot 😬

It does sound like this makes you uncomfortable (makes me uncomfortable too and again I know it probably shouldn’t) but I wonder if anyone has told someone not to use that language? In my scenario, there’s a few other lack of boundaries things that have happened that make the use of “my” even more irksome

No, I wouldn't care as long as my relationship with that person was good and healthy (and if it wasn't, they wouldn't be picking up my kid lol). But no, it doesn't bother me. I actually find it comforting knowing they love, cherish, and care for my kid and have a bond. I call all of my nieces and nephews "my baby" when I pick them up or hold them. Because I love them so much. And vise versa, my sisters in law do the same. They call my kids their babies.

If you know she’s trying to be shady yes but if you know it’s more affectionate then no

My dad calls my son my buddy and my son chooses to be with my dad over his momma and it doesnt bother me one bit. Maybe i just resent my MIL 😅

This depends on who says it. Like my daughter has a special bond with certain people. I also got to the point I said to take them. One of her favorite people is her uncle. When we visit auntie and uncle will take my littles to give mom and dad a break. I will joke my daughter is theirs because she has hair color like my sister in law and acts just like my brother in law.

I don’t know why people get so upset about this. Literally my parents, my partners parents and our grandparents call our little girl my baby or my little girl. Technically she is. She’s their granddaughter and great granddaughter they love her to pieces.

A friend of mine was told she could never have kids but now has three beautiful babies so she gets very defensive when people say "my baby" about her kids. I personally don't mind but it also just depends on the person, their past experience and personal views.