Customise your consent preferences for Cookie Categories and advertising tracking preferences for Purposes & Features and Vendors below. You can give granular consent for each and . Most vendors require explicit consent for personal data processing, while some rely on legitimate interest. However, you have the right to object to their use of legitimate interest. Additionally, please note that your preferences regarding purposes and vendors are saved in a cookie named 'euconsent' on your device and may be retained for up to 730 days to remember your choices.
Cookie Categories
We use cookies to help you navigate efficiently and perform certain functions. You will find detailed information about all cookies under each consent category below.
The cookies that are categorised as "Necessary" are stored on your browser as they are essential for enabling the basic functionalities of the site. ...
For more information on how Google's third-party cookies operate and handle your data, see: Google Privacy Policy
Necessary cookies are required to enable the basic features of this site, such as providing secure log-in or adjusting your consent preferences. These cookies do not store any personally identifiable data.
Functional cookies help perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collecting feedback, and other third-party features.
Analytical cookies are used to understand how visitors interact with the website. These cookies help provide information on metrics such as the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc.
Performance cookies are used to understand and analyse the key performance indexes of the website which helps in delivering a better user experience for the visitors.
Advertisement cookies are used to provide visitors with customised advertisements based on the pages you visited previously and to analyse the effectiveness of the ad campaigns.
Other uncategorised cookies are those that are being analysed and have not been classified into a category as yet.
What should I do 😅. I want there to be but I feel like it’s just harder when you’re not there from birth
Read more on PeanutThe views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.
Learn more about our guidelines.I’m not close to my two nieces of my brothers kids either because I never see them. It just is what it is I mean I don’t really see it as a problem lol I’ll be sweet to them and enjoy my time with them whenever it comes around but if my husband wanted us to see them more he’d bring it up or make it happen. My hubby and I are super close with our nephew on my side of the family though, my sisters son.
My BIL married a woman who already had kids that were in middle school and they never had any kids together. We used to do family dinners with them but then some drama happened and they stopped coming around (only BIL would show up) so we only saw them about once a year or so. Now my husband and I are having our own kids and those kids are in high school and college now and won’t see or talk to us so I couldn’t even tell you their last name or anything else about them really
@Autumn they’re my only niece and nephew. My husband only has 1 brother and I’m an only child. I think that’s why it hurts 😭
Ohhhh, yeah I can totally understand why you feel that way more then. I’m sorry 😟 you should throw around some ideas with your hubby on how to get closer to them! Like do a fun lil auntie/uncle date night once every few weeks and take them out somewhere if it’s at all possible. My sister and I already discussed how in the summers she’s gonna take my kids for a week or two and then I’ll take hers 😂 to give eachother a break and also build memories with the kids
I have 2 nephews with another on the way my sister in law and are both expecting boy around the same time. But they live in another country so I don’t really know them which sucks. I would start by getting to know them as much as possible there might be a way to connect.
My brother in law (husband’s brother) had 1 child (nephew) when my husband and I got together and he was 1. Then couple years later, they were expecting baby #2 (another boy). But then they split and the mother moved down to California with the boys. We see them when my brother in law decides to step up and be a father which is rare. We did see them last year for the summer. They’re now 10 and 8 . We try to keep in touch with them .
Kids love getting stuff in the mail. Maybe write them letters or send fun little things in the mail and see if you can be pen pals
I think I’ll come w time. They’re ur kids only cuzins so they’ll b close n it’ll help I think
If they were on your side it'd probably be different just be polite and mindful maybe get them gifts on special occasions if you want to. Im super close to all my nephew's on my family's side but don't know my husband's at all and it's fine for us ( my husband is no very close to his family so there's that to)
Do you and your husband want to see them more often? Do their parents want to see you? What's stopping you spending more time together?
I don't think you need to have a specific bond with other peoples kids, especially if you don't see them often. I get that it'd be nice as you're family but families aren't always close!
What do you want out of the relationship? I'd figure that out and see if it aligns with what their parents want too e.g. if you'd like the cousins to be close and grow up together. You can't force it though!
I said can’t relate but i think about my exhusbands nieces and nephews (there was 8 of them) the eldest one and the youngest one I didn’t really form a bond with but the rest of the kids were super into me HOWEVER it felt like the sisters didn’t want us to have that relationship at all especially the eldest sister that had the 6 kids
Do they live far away?
If not, then talk to the parents, ask if you can take them out to lunch or ice cream. Start small and if you wanted, see if they need someone to babysit and if you could do sleepovers. Tell the parents how you feel and how you want them in your life and you want to be there for all of them🤍
@Caroline I don’t like them (the parents) lmao but if my husband wanted to I would anyways. They live 30 minutes from us and no one makes an effort lol
If you don't like them and your husband isn't bothered then I'd probably just leave it tbh! No point trying to force a connection between your families.