Is it irresponsible/wrong to have a bdsm relationship as a mom?
Before I had my daughter I had a bdsm “relationship” with this man. we’re into really dark, “immoral” things and we bond over that. I got back in contact with him cause I find myself wanting that love and affection again and only he understands. So I’m meeting him this weekend.
Now I’m starting to feel bad like I’m wrong for getting a babysitter just to get freaky when this isn’t a man that I’m gonna marry or would ever bring around my child. What do you think? Should I only be dating to be serious and dealing with men that would be good role models/father figures for my child? Or is it acceptable to have some no strings attached fun so long as my daughter is uninvolved?
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Ugh I accidentally voted wrong but YOURE NOT WRONG.
You're not wrong at all. We have our own needs and your being smart and rational by not having them around your child & getting a sitter. Keeping your pleasure from your home. Thats how dating as a mother is period. So whether its dating for fun or for marriage, you're doing it the right way.
You’re stepping out to take time for yourself 🤷♀️ you have a trusted adult watching her. You’re not getting her mixed up with a man who isn’t suited to be in her life. I think you’ve responsibly covered your bases. It’s no different than hiring a sitter for a regular night out.
Nah girl. A mum is still a woman at heart we still have a sex drive we still have fantasies and needs as a woman kids or not. The only thing I advise is for you in this situation is for you both to have a safe word so there are no miscommunication and that you have a safety net for yourself that’s all but you probably have already
Nobody can know if you’re wrong but you. It’s not wrong to explore with men you know won’t be long term. You can keep that separate from your child. but I don’t think anyone can tell you if you’re wrong for the bdsm “really dark immoral things” yall bond over cuz there’s def kinks and things that go too far and are wrong for anyone not just mothers to engage in or promote with men, for example as a mom and woman in general id never be able to cosplay some of the common bdsm things like a child in the school girl type outfits while calling a man daddy cuz i feel like that’s just fodder for pedos and they don’t get their fill, they only push and push those boundaries to keep the excitement going until they actually become an active predator so in that sense I think stuff like that is irresponsible
I'm quite vanilla and we get a babysitter to have sex. Lol. The odd time... I have to admit, the downstairs area has not been the same. I've been so slow to heal. I still don't feel right and it's been nearly 6 months. AND I lack libido.
You gotta do you boo.. be safe right.. and if you trust this guy, there is totally nothing wrong with that. I'm so curious about these kinks now lmao.
since you asked… let’s just say we do things involving piss, shit, and puke 🤢 and he degrades me and has ownership of me and is 22 years older than me (and that’s the least of it) 🙄🤣🤣 but he’s also really sweet and loving and we do normal shit too like watch movies
not wrong. what i do in the bedroom does NOT hint at what kind of parent i am or how i parent 😅
you know not everyone believes or follows your religion/ version of God right?
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