Cheating

20 yr old me cheated. i was a shit person didn't give 2 fs about ppl or their feelings 27 and older I became a different person. My past doesn't define who i am.as a person now.

I feel like if someone is inclined to cheat because of their relationship circumstances then they will repeatedly cheat if they find themselves in similar or difficult circumstances with someone else. If I was dating again and found out that the person I’m talking to had a history of cheating it would likely be over. The only exception being that they were upfront with me about their past and they told me they did the very serious and difficult work it takes to figure out why cheating was even an option. As far as being a good or bad person, I don’t really believe that anyone is “good”. I think we’re all just people making good or bad decisions.

I think good people can sometimes do a bad thing. People are human. People make mistakes and not all conditions are the same. What I think is whether they should be “cancelled” over it, is when they aren’t remorseful and didn’t learn from it (i.e. they keep doing it).

I think once a cheater always a cheater in that same relationship *. It's just a matter of when will you catch them again. I think people can change but if they have cheated in every relationship then they're just like that and you will not be the exception.

I'm a big believer that doing bad things DOES NOT make someone a bad person! We've all made mistakes, especially when we're young, and I think it's hugely unfair to tarnish someone over that for their whole lives

i don’t think that someone who cheated will DEFINITELY do it again but there’s a higher likelihood & if someone told me they cheated in a past relationship i would run the opposite direction bc i automatically will feel some type of way about your character or question whether i can trust you. i know it can be situational but for me cheating is cheating.

I think once someone has cheated within a relationship they will likely cheat again so in that situation I would say once a cheater always a cheater for the duration of that relationship anyway. If the relationship ends because of the betrayal and both people move on and find new partners I think it's entirely possible for there to be no cheating within the new relationship. Realistically cheating comes down to how much you value and respect your partner so if the cheater finds someone who they deem the "right one" and "worth it" they are 100% capable of not cheating, old saying of knowing when your bread is buttered.

25 year old me cheated on my boyfriend of 5 years. I was unknowingly having my first manic episode and made a lot of terrible choices. I ruined my entire life in 6 months. Just glad I finished my degree before it started. It’s not an excuse, more of an explanation. We were both on a downward spiral for different reasons and I felt trapped, so it was a rash way to end things without facing our problems, even though I truly loved him. The worst part is that he doesn’t even know that, I was diagnosed after we cut ties. How things ended, with the cheating and the lack of closure, is one of my few regrets in life.

I personally could not date someone who had a history of cheating. I'm too anxious of a person, I'd be convinced they were going to cheat on me. But, I do think people can grow and change. Especially if the person is aware and takes ownership that the cheating was their fault (if they try to blame it on the other person for not meeting their needs or whatever, then i think that person is likely still a cheater)

Now in my experience my exs cheated and didn’t change but I have 6 brothers and they love and respect woman yes one of my brothers cheated but he changed and I love to see that there is hope my so I’d say if a man really truly loved you he will change we are all human and fall short but also a man cheating repeatedly that’s not love nd disrespecting you constantly is not love …..