No friends

I can’t believe that I’ve got to my big age of 32 and have basically 0 friends. And when I say 0 I truly means 0, bcos someone ppl say they have no friends but will have their childhood friends who they consider family etc but I don’t have that like I truly have none! I had two close friends growing up but when I got married moved out and then got pregnant, they just distanced theirselves and now we never talk, it’s sad bcos I grew up with them and they should of been like aunties to my son but instead they just disappeared on me. I have no one to message bullshit to, to rant or just talk about girly stuff. It actually makes me so sad bcos I consider myself to have the qualities that would make for a great friend. I just think about how many days I’ve spent on my own, taking my son out on my own, I don’t have one friend to call to meet me, keep me company or take my mind off things when I’m stressed. I have my husband which is amazing but a girl needs her girl/s. I fear I’ve reached a point where no great friendship will ever build for me as many already have their life long friends already and whatever friendships I make now will always be superficial 😔

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i’m 23 but in the exact same situation 😭 it really sucks

Do you go to children’s centres? You’ll definitely meet people in the same boat as you there. We go every day and it’s so nice to have adult conversations with other mums. One of the women who works there has got a 17 year old daughter and said she’s still friends with people she met when she used to take her daughter as a baby. Where are you based?

@Naomi I do, I go to all my local ones in the area. I’ve met some lovely women there and even arranged outings and play dates but we never really stay in touch

@Izzie your so young, I’m sure you can meet some young mamas like yourself that you’ll click with 💗

I'm 32 and also in the same situation x

You must be very choosy about ppl around you

I’m 41 and pretty close to that. I have some work friends but I am on mat leave for a year and never hear from them. I have one childhood friend I used to talk to on social media but I never hear from her anymore. Being on mat leave has kind of shown me how I basically have no friends because are work friends really friends when you dont talk outside work and have no one to vent or talk deeply to when stuff happens?

I know the feeling… Some of my “friends” were surprised to hear I was pregnant because it wasn’t planned for and even more surprised I was staying with my partner (who they didn’t like). They faked being happy for me at first but literally stopped talking to me, texting, inviting me out, etc. I also moved to NYC about 8 years ago and rarely go out socially. Everyone is wrapped up in their own stuff (which is understandable) but I feel like people just don’t make an effort… it’s hard not to take it personal and feel like it’s something about me. We moved so much growing up that childhood friends aren’t a thing either.

I'm 38, and kinda felt the same a few years ago. Had really boring friends who never wanted to do anything, were unreliable, or just miserable to be around. Spent birthdays alone until I met my fiance. I met my bestie on the "Bumble bff" app in 2023 and through her,I met another amazing friend. I'd recommend going on there but with caution because...well people are weird. Throughout the years, I've learned I truly love my own company, and my partner is really my best friend. So I don't mind being alone and going for walks with just me and my son. I also found that old friends reached out when I became a Mum, and it just so happened that an old friend of a friend was pregnant at the same time as me so we started messaging/ sending each other stuff on Instagram and now we talk at least weekly via VN on Watsapp. I always wanted a big group of friends like I see others have. But trust me, most of those groups of girls usually hate each other deep down. You really only need a couple of true quality friends.

I used to have a lot of “friends” from college especially homegirls etc but times changed and people changed and theh your left with one or two who you chat with every so often but I never hang with any body nowadays just my partner and soon my baby. Going to local art and music events was always nice to meet people

@Sanober well yes to a certain extent that’s standard. I won’t associate myself with just anyone

@Sanober what a rude and odd thing to say. How is that she is “choosy” your takeaway from her post?

@Sarah don’t get me wrong, I love my own company and have always had a small circle of friends growing up. I think a big group of fiends would honestly overwhelm me but it’s just that now, I literally have no one lol friend wise anyway. I’m truly lucky to have my amazing husband, I have my mum and sister who are like my best friends without them I don’t think I would deal with this as well as I have. I also think bcos I was the first to get married and have a baby in my ‘group’ of friends, it kinda made me unrelatable to them and they distanced from me. I will try out bumble bff and be wary of any weirdos lol thanks for the message

@Heather I agree totally, people don’t make effort anymore and I’ve seen it first hand, a lot of ppl now are very absorbed in their own life they forget about others unfortunately.

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