Advice/ opinions on leaving baby?

I’m going out on Saturday which has been arranged a while so baby’s dad was going to look after him (we’re together). He was planning on taking baby to see his mum and dad for a few hours (who have only seen him twice since he was born. Once at 4 days old and once at 2 months and he’s now 4 months). They live 20 mins down the road. So I thought that would be nice for baby to get to know them a bit more. Now he’s dropped it on me that his mum and dad are going to look after him and he’s going off to play rugby. I am livid! He didn’t even ask me what I thought before just agreeing to it. With my family, I’ve built it up by baby seeing them many times (more than 10) with us there and then gradually we’ve gone to leaving baby at our house for a couple of hours with them and haven’t even got to the stage of leaving baby at their house yet without us. I’m happy for his family to see baby with us there of course but after only meeting baby twice, I don’t think it’s acceptable to be leaving baby with them for the day. Am I being dramatic and overreacting? What do you think? How would you react?

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I think you’re right and I’d be angry too. Your points are all valid. At this point I think I would personally say I won’t go ahead with my plans and I’ll keep the baby just so that he realises that what he’s done (thinking to leave baby) is non negotiable for you. Good luck girl x

@Kate thank you for taking the time to reply x

I'd be fuming. Plans were made and he's changed them without informing you. I'd ask him to reconsider, personally. He is the one who has to cancel his plans and looks after his child, not you! x

I’d be annoyed that he hadn’t discussed it with me but I do think you’re overreacting. He’s the child’s dad so does get to make decisions and they are his parents, not complete strangers. Completely understandable that you feel this way but I just think you should chill out and go and enjoy yourself. Tell him that it’s unacceptable to exclude you from the decisions again but allow it this time. Parenting is hard, pick your battles. Be grateful you have family to rely on and don’t make it harder for yourself.

I’d be livid tbh one of us would be cancelling plans I wouldn’t want someone that’s met my kid twice to be responsible for him.

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