Lack of intimacy, I feel ugly & it’s driving me crazy.

Have anyone else has this problem if so how did y’all figure it out, because honestly I love him fr, I’m just going to put it out there straight as it is. Me and my partner only has sex maybe once a month or once every 2 months. I try to have conversations about it with him but he always gets defensive and it starts a huge argument. Like today we faught because the conversation started to get crazy. I feel like he’s not understanding me. I state to him it’s not just about the sex it’s how when I try to initiate sex you always blow me off but when he’s finally ready to get some he be ready to go and I don’t tell him no.(I mean why would I say no when it’s been almost 2 months we haven’t had sex) like why do I always have to ask for sex but he doesn’t and I know for sure he’s not cheating on me we are together 25/7 but I’m starting to feel like he’s just not attracted to me. I EVEN ASKED “WHAT AM I UGLY” he didn’t even say NO 😞😭😢.. I tell this man daily that he looks good (& I genuinely think he’s the finest man ever) even if he do look a lil bummy I still fine him handsome. Do you think once every 2 months is crazy to have sex?

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maybe he just doesn’t have a high sex drive (anymore)??

@~ Miss Ritaa🦋 & that’s understandable but there are ways to fix that & I don’t think he cares to do so. I would never cheat on him but If it was vice versa I’m pretty sure the man wouldn’t care and fine that somewhere else if he wasn’t getting it at home.

Check depression on his part, it really messes with a man's sex drive.

My man is a bit like this. Ours is like once a week and I asked him about it and he said you can always initiate it. So I started wearing some lingerie after the kids go to bed, bought some sexy panties and it really helped. The other thing I wanted to look at is the adventure Challenge in bed bundle. Look into that maybe

My husband did this. I took it really hard. I started to feel embarrassed to even be naked around him. In hindsight it was a lot of mental strain he was working through. He was struggling at work, struggling at the idea of becoming a father, and struggling with having a wife that depended on him so heavily. Once I started to understand the burdens he was silently carrying our relationship started to repair. Then our physical relationship started to repair. I still feel self conscious about my body because of his rejection, but I try to remember that it wasn’t because he thought I turned into some hideous thing. Just remember communication and understanding goes a long way. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I wouldn’t wish it on anybody.

The defensiveness and arguments are more worrisome than the frequency of sex. My husband had an emotional affair for who knows how long before he finally decided to escalate it and move away. Before then, this is how he was acting - like he deliberately did not want to know or comprehend.

@Susan see and I’m tryna refrain from thinking that too. Bc honestly to me I feel like we should be able to talk about stuff like this

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