Did anyone have their ex at the birth?

Personally I’d only want people there who are going to love and support me with words of encouragement, but it’s very big of you to still let him there personally I couldn’t not when I’m that vulnerable 💖

I didn’t let my child’s father come because he put his hands on me the day before . I do wish he was there though but I feel that was the best thing to do because I didn’t need stress while having the baby

@Beth if I don't have him I'm on my own, I think that sways me abit more x

Personal experience, i went through the same thing recently and i let him be with me during the birth of his son. I made it very clear that no matter what i didn’t want any issues and if there were he would need to leave. I also told my nurse my situation so that if i wanted/needed him to leave they would make him

@Gia yes was going to ask if anyone had made the nurses aware just more to avoid the awkwardness or pain having to hear people talk to us as a couple. I would never want him to miss it, and we can be friends when we put aside our issues, just wasn't sure if that is impossible when you're in labour aha I'm just so worried about it, was he supportive or did he just literally sit and watch?

I let my youngests sons dad in and we weren’t together. I couldn’t deny him seeing his son enter the world I don’t care what’s happened between us. That’s his baby too

If you do have him, I would take someone like your mum or sister etc as your birth partner. X

@Eleanor I wish I was able to do that. I could have only one person in the room and I had my mom come

I had my ex at my birth. He’s my baby’s dad at the end of the day he has every right to be there I believe but it’s everyone’s personal preference. We also get on really well so it helps we just didn’t really work as a couple.

@Paige yes as a couple it's a no go but I would never ever stop him being at the birth, just not sure how to deal with the raw emotions of a breakup during labour I guess, maybe the pain will make all that not an issue aha

my bd and i broke up during pregnancy as well and i did let him be there. there were good moments but there were also some really bad moments. he made a scene with my parents in the hospital, threatened to take me to court if i didn’t give her both our last names, and created a whole bunch of added stress when we were in the hospital for three days cuz of my girl being a month early. i would never do that again or i should’ve made the nurses aware so they could protect us more. her dad is no longer in the picture and hasn’t been since she was a month and she’s 11 months now

also with all of the high emotions, he kissed me and that made everything so much more confusing as i was trying to work past the break up still

I chose not to have my ex at mine there where arguments but I couldn't imagine being in that much pain and him being there I just wanted my family's support and chose to put my self first in a hard painful situation x

@lucy he was very supportive. I had to have a c section and he was there holding my hand the whole time. He was very helpful and involved

@Lucy i wondered the same at how i would cope but weirdly enough it was fine. I was in hospital for 8 days and he only left to grab food and supplies I and baby needed as she was on dd but extremely poorly and honestly I can’t fault him at all. He went all the way to a different hospital with her for her to have x rays and tests from a specialist as I was also so poorly I wasn’t able to go but if she had to stay there then I would have been transferred just got to weight up everything if he will go get you say pads or whatever your be using I used the pant ones as was easier you don’t need any stress and he needs to be there for you not just baby.

@Paige thank you, that's so lovely that he was so helpful! Relationship aside I think he will be supportive when it matters, so it's just me that needs to put my feelings aside, I guess I will be too distracted and in the moment, just scared for the moment it hits me that it should be this happy family in love moment and it's not x

@Kaitlyn oh that's awful and so not fair that he done that to you!

I had my ex there. However, he turned up late to a planned c section, and the staff were waiting around for him to arrive to take me down to the theatre. He was supportive during the procedure, and stayed in the hospital the first night, but he slept in the chair the whole time, to the point the midwife said to me - is he still asleep from earlier... he will need to move soon as we will need to get you out of bed. The staff said I couldn't go home like they'd originally planned as they weren't happy with babys feeding, I got upset and he just decided to argue with me about the fact that I was upset. He then didn't come back to the hospital, so it was a crappy time, and I wish I had taken someone else with me. I had told family I would do it on my own, but when he initially didn't turn up the morning of, to take me as planned, a friend turned up to the hospital, and I wish I'd have kept her with me instead.

I’m in the same boat! I think we will get to a friendship but not fast. One of my main anxieties is who comes to the birth

@Cat yh it does cause a lot of anxiety! We still live together which at times is so hard! But I said he can stay until she's a month or two so he doesn't miss anything 😞

I didn’t have my ex there but I wish I did; I can’t go back and have him witness the birth of our child. And my birth was beautiful and I was supported by my sister and mom so I also dont regret not having him there. its more of a wishful thinking situation