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Should I be bothered that a good friend of mine I told I was pregnant to went and told her significant other I was pregnant when I had asked her specifically not to tell him or anyone else until we told him? Back story our husbands are childhood best friends. Sort of how we became close. But idk something about her “slipping up” and telling him before my husband could tell him doesn’t sit right with me. Almost makes me think she might be slipping up and telling other people as well. And another thing, the only reason I felt I had to tell her sooner rather than later is because I waited to tell her till about 8 weeks with my first born and it created a lot of issues between us. So I tried avoiding that this time around and do things differently and it kind of back fired.

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She doesn't sound like a very good friend if you telling her at 8 weeks was an issue and you felt pressured to tell her earlier this time. A lot of people won't tell anyone until 12 weeks friends and family included. In terms of telling her partner I can kind of see both sides. In a lot of cases partners will tell each other all of the little don't tell anyone things you tell them, it doesn't mean it's right but I feel like it does happen most of the time and doesnt necessarily mean shes telling others. Saying that I do think it is a bit different in this case knowing that the men are best friends and that he would want chance to share the news with him as you have with her.

@Nicole and I guess that’s my point to. I really didnt want to tell her so soon this time but I did and I guess in the back of my mind I was hoping to see maybe a change from her since last time and I’m not. It’s still the same bs as it’s always been. Long story short I’ve pushed away from this friendship and I’m ready to put it to rest. I’ll still be cordial with her when I see her around but as far as trusting her with valuable information I’m not anymore.

That's totally understandable, I've done the same with one of my past friends that I couldn't trust anymore. You have to look after you first and you don't need the stress of that and when you have news like that - congratulations by the way! - you should wait until you're ready not when you think others expect you too

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