Do I invite my MIL to my baby shower?
So my MIL is a lovely person- but she’s a *lot*. And I find spending more than a few hours in my company pretty hard going.
We both live up north- but I’m having my baby shower in London, where I’m from (and where 90% of the guests are from). I’ll be staying at my parents for a few days for the weekend of the shower, and if I invite my MIL she would obviously be invited to stay there, too. We’d travel together, too, as she doesn’t drive.
It’s not so much that I don’t want her at the shower- it’s that I don’t want to spend SO much time with her either side…my mum finds her hard work, too, so there’s that.
I know she was a bit hurt I didn’t invite her to my hen do either (although she never said so directly to me), so I feel unkind not inviting her again to this…it is her grandbaby after all.
What would you do in my shoes?
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@Dani she really wants a closer relationship with my mum so I just know she’d want to stay. And my mum would invite her anyway, because that’s what she’s like 🥲 also if I invite MIL I’d invite my SIL too (also up north) and mum would put her up as well- which is fine because I really get on with her. I think I’m going to have to just suck it up aren’t I 🙈
I’d invite her but maybe say your spending an extra day or two down in London to spend time with friends so you don’t need to travel together if you really don’t want to
I’m not inviting my mother in law to my baby shower 😂 I like her and we get on but I do just want something with my family and friends
If it was me, I would invite her, but I don't understand why all the plans have to include her?.. Could she not invite a friend or something and make it a little trip just coming to the shower and staying in London with a friend or something? That seems all too close quarters, and although you feel a need to accommodate if you invite her, I think having time with your side of the family is important too, I would always include my husbands side in anything I do, But there are certain boundaries and she should be understanding too 💖 I feel like allowing her a plus one takes the pressure off you a little bit xx