Anybody else’s baby point bank refuse to go to anyone. They will just absolutely hysterically scream if anyone tries to pick them up??
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@Becci I’m very lucky where I don’t have to go to work yet, because technically she should be at nursery where she would have no other choice but to be okay with other people, yeah that’s what I’m thinking they said they will keep coming round before but we will see, it’s just because it’s such a long time if it was for a few hours I would be fine but she gets herself in such a state clenches her own body it’s awful to see I’m just really worried if she’s like that and will not settle it’s not like I’m 10 mins down the road. I experienced this with my other child and it wasn’t until she started nursery she was ok with people x
My girl sounds exactly like your little one. It’s so tough so I completely sympathise with you😢 what I was reading which made me feel better was that they have a secure attachment to you and feel you are the safe space in this world. And therefore want to be with you rather than unfamiliar people. It won’t always be this way and one day they will be independent and we’ll think back to these days. That maybe doesn’t help so much as you’re in it currently but maybe it may help to think of it in a different way Like Becci said, leaving your little one with trusted people for short periods of time to build up comfortability and trust I think is a good idea. I find what has worked for us is to not push them to go to others, rather let them warm up themselves and reassure them gently. My little girl still will not be held by anyone other than me and a couple of other family members she sees every day. But she’ll interact more with others and is more comfortable with this approach xx
I’ve been there! It was just weeks before I was returning to work and I couldn’t even go to the toilet without my little one crying. I went to the theatre in December - had only left my boy the odd hour or two a handful of times, but he cried the whole time for my sister and she had to drive him around (he loves the car so then settled). I was kind of forced into the deep end returning to work - did a few eases in with my mum (he’s with her when I work) but never managed to leave him a “full working day” prior. I think in some ways, me being present hindered it. It’s gone much better than predicted. The more I put it off, the worse both of our social anxieties got. I’m still working on regaining my independence, all I want to do is be with my boy ❤️ Perhaps keep trying to leave her with family (the ones who’ll be babysitting) for small amounts of time beforehand? Hopefully you can make it work 🤞🏻