Feeling abit down

Hiya ladies, im 40+1 weeks preggers. Ive put on 20kg throughout my pregnancy and weight 84kg. I feel big fat and ugly. I thought id try do the deed with my hubby to see if it would help with labour. Only problem is he couldn’t even look at me or keep it up for more than 30seconds. I already feel so unattractive as it is and that really didnt help. Currently sat in the bath crying my eyes out 😭😭

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.
Add a comment
Avatar

It’s easy enough for someone to say that you shouldn’t feel that way because you are growing a baby! But honestly it’s hard to not feel it. I completely understand feeling fat and ugly whilst pregnant and the idea of not being attractive enough for my husband to even touch me. Please try talking to your husband about how you feel. There could be anxiety for him surrounding being intimate whilst your pregnant

Avatar

Omg Hun please don't be so hard on yourself! Our bodies change so much in pregnancy and I feel your pain I've put on so much weight too and feel like I'm in someone else's body. Don't worry about your hubby it's probably just a big change for him too or he might be scared thinking he's gonna hurt the baby or baby is just at the forefront of his mind so it might even just be that. Don't pressure yourself to do anything you're not comfortable with. Just remember you're growing a new life inside of you and you're near the end of that journey now. Soon you will feel more like yourself again 💓😊

Avatar

i tried to talk to him about it and tried to make him feel more comfortable. He laughed

Avatar

I really try not to let it get too me but he makes me feel that much more ugly. I was constantly trying to reassure him and make sure he was okay and all he could do was laugh at me and how big I am

Avatar

I'll be honest that's not right at all for him to act like that or say those things. But just to try and see his side maybe he's embarrassed about it so he's trying to shift the blame.. 😕

Avatar

It makes me really sad when I see posts like this, especially as often as they arise. But I think we’ve all been there. My body has changed so much I don’t recognise myself. My partner will make the odd comment which upsets me and then I remember how much we have been through and that we are growing a human being. Our bodies are amazing. And the sacrifice we have to make to get them here is a lot. Be kind to yourself. Remember, you have grown this human all by yourself. And if your body didn’t change, you wouldn’t have this tiny human.

Read more on Peanut

Trending

in our community

Midwife appointment

Just had my 37 week midwife appointment today and they said that my baby is 3/5 engaged, does that mean baby’s head is basically fully in my pelvis? (Can’t remember what it means from my first baby 😂)

Also my blood pressure was quite high and I had to go to triage, they checked again it was ok but I have to go back again tomorrow to see a doctor in the day assessment unit, what happens if it doesn’t come down?

I’m 37 weeks pregnant now so I have 2 weeks or more before I give birth, as with my first I gave birth at 39 weeks even tho (I was induced) so is there enough time if needed to bring my blood pressure down? As usually I have really good blood pressure so I’ve never experienced this before even before pregnancy so this is all very new to me 😂

Avatar

7

37 weeks

Anyone else just suuuuper uncomfortable now? I can’t wait for this baby to arrive. I thought baby number 1 was uncomfortable but this is another level!

How’s everyone doing?

Avatar

1

12

Ramzi Theory. Boy or Girl???

6w1d Abdominal Ultrasound.

Avatar

3

1 hour glucose

So i just failed my one hour glucose test with a 179, and im pretty sad and stressed out about it. Can people share positive stories about how they failed their 1 hour but passed the 3 hour? 😞 please and thank you💙

Avatar

4

Blood pressure

Hi any mommas that have dealt with high BP during pregnancy? What did you do to help it? Did you have any symptoms? I personally don’t unless I’m that anxious and that’s why it keeps reading high but I do try to be as relaxed as possible I was on high BP medication when I was pregnant but I had to stop bc it wasn’t safe for baby. Please help a mama out I’m trying to see if any food or maybe work outs help me. Maintain also be stress free

Avatar

6

Anyone else find out super early?

I’m only 3 weeks and 3 days! Anyone else find out super early?

Avatar

2

9

Read more on Peanut