Advice on having a second!
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Great Idea. I waited 3 years between my first and second… but about 11 months between the 2nd and 3rd. It’s only after years of them growing up that I think I should have spaced them all out. The middle child often felt neglected-and it’s affected a lot of things in life.
I have a big age gap my eldest was 8 when I had my second. My second slotted right in though I felt more confident and better in myself and through pregnancy. Post partem was so much better to although still lost myself again slowly finding me again 18months pp. My 2 girls love each other so much it's lovely to see my eldest looking out for her sister 🥰
I have a much smaller age gap than the two ladies who have replied already. So I would say that being a mum to a one year old and a newborn at the same time is a very mixed bag. Your first baby's toddlerhood will go by in a flash as they're sharing your attention with their new sibling. Your baby's first or second summer walking, being able to climb etc will be spent rocking a new baby to sleep and focused on nappy changes etc. There are loads of positives of a small age gap too, if you want me to share my views. But the eight months you've just had will be nothing like the eight months of number two if they're close in age and home full time with you as mine were. I think it's very different for mums whose eldest is in childcare or education.
It is easier to transition from one to two kids, then it was to transition zero to one kid. When I found out I was pregnant with my second I was a little upset, even though previously I wanted a second. I felt like I wasn’t gonna give my daughter enough time to herself. But people encourage me and here we are. She is five and he is one and a half. They do like to fight, but as they get older, they are starting to play a lot more together.