I want to divorce him but…

Hey mamas, I don’t know how to explain this without sounding like a psycho but I am terrified of divorcing him. I have been sick and tired of him, we have a 2 year old. He doesn’t even care if we exist, he is never home. Only comes home for 2-3 days a month. But lately he has been home more often because his job has been slow. The more he stays home, the more I start hating him. He hits me, in front of the kid. I want to divorce him, but I am scared. I’m scared that if I tell him I am leaving him, he will kill me or something. I’m scared because he is aggressive like that. And I have no where to go, so if I divorce him I’ll probably be somewhere outside in the cold with a kid. I don’t know what to do. I just want to kill myself. What do I do. Someone please help me. Please

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Can you make a report for the abuse and get a restraining order? Do you own a pew in the event he does try to ☠️ you

Firstly please know there is hope!! Are there any women's centres in your area you can contact? They take in women and their child in domestic situations and will have you in a hostel but you need to be honest about your situation no matter what path you take . I know it's scary and you need to protect him to almost protect yourself. If he helps financially, and he'll be away and you'll be somewhat safe for a while, find a way maybe to collect the money and gather for long as you can. Is there anywhere you can go at all? Even an old friend or any distant family?

You need to do your research and get help there’s defo help out there for people in your situation. Stay strong you can do this once you take that first step. I hope you find it in yourself to do it for yourself and your child.

Stay strong mama! I would suggest contacting the domestic violence hotline. They can help you get out and into a shelter, legal help, etc https://www.thehotline.org

Idk where you are but find the nearest womens shelter if you can't drive idk how close i am to you but reach out if I'm within an hour and a half I'll take you to a shelter call a hot line but your not alone

Mamas. Thank you so much. I am currently on the waitlist to speak to someone on the domestic violence hotline. You are all amazing

@Autumn you are in Virginia and I am in jersey💔 but you are so kind for helping, thank you so much💜

I am not in my 20s anymore but something I did was when my ex was at work I met with lawyers… to him I acted normal but I made a plan to escape with a lawyer… some lawyers give free consultations… find out your rights… don’t tell your man anything until you have a plan!

Hey I’m in Jersey if you wanna talk maybe I can help or at least be some support ??

First of all, I am so incredibly sorry you’re going through this. You and your baby dont deserve any of this. If it were me, I’d get my ducks in a row so I can get myself and my child out as quickly and safely as possible. Tell anyone and everyone you’re close with what’s been going on. Let them know the gory details and your fears of him taking your life if you tried to leave. Doing this over text would be good as well so you have it documented. If you haven’t already, start taking pictures and videos of everything you can. Any bruises, damage to the home, etc- get pictures of. I’d get in touch with a lawyer and make a plan with them. If you have family or friends in another state or city that you could stay with, get in touch with them and set up a possible escape plan. You’re not alone and you WILL get through this.❤️‍🩹

You don't have to tell him, you can just leave. He can be served divorce papers. Take pictures of your bruises. What state are you in? There are programs to help when in these situations. They offer legal help, childcare while you work, a place to live, food, etc..

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