I think my relationship is done

i would say (unless abuse involved, which isn’t your case) never make a decision like that in the first year of babies life let alone the first few weeks! hormones raging, baby blues and lack of sleep play a huge role in the emotions we feel towards a partner and situations!

I think the main issue is that you live with your in-laws… I think this is the worse especially when having a baby. You need your own space with your partner ensure no one is interfering in your life… all my friends having babies argue a lot with their partners when having a baby… it’s hormonal and also exhaustion and tiredness which makes you more vulnerable and snappy… so it s entirely normal… i think you should try living the three of you together and give a year time before you make any decisions… it would be a real shame to brake up now… as you were in such an amazing love prior to this bee journey…

* to this new journey

From reading it's seems as though it's the situation that's difficult being split over 2 houses can't be easy. Give it time and above all else, just try to be kind to one another and remember you are on the same team. Lookin after a newborn is tough x

It sounds like you are both struggling to adjust to parenthood, rather than anything "wrong" in your relationship. All relationships change when you have a baby and you need to allow time to adapt. It's only been 7 weeks, so I would say unless you've seen something in your partner in this time that you simply cannot get passed/forgive, it's totally normal your feeling the relationship has changed and your both struggling, but 100% try to work through it for all of you. But why not both just focus on your daughter for now and hopefully in time your relationship will get back to where it was. It's hard to know what you think is actually wrong with the relationship from your post, other than that you are sad/miserable/tiered. Is it him making you feel this way? If so, what is he doing? All those emotions are otherwise pretty common to feel in early days pp (for both partners). Could you have ppd?

Give it time, adjustment to parenthood is really tough and takes months to adjust. Keep talking to your partner and maybe think about specifics where can he support you more and where can you support him more. Women struggle in some areas but dads will struggle in others. Also if you are feeling low and crying a lot, consider getting support for your mental health - self refer to talking therapies and just download everything. It helped me massively and I went from wanting to split with my partner to realising how much he means to me and that parenting is so much better with him by my side. We are 7 months pp and still adjusting!

Honestly the first few months of having a baby are SO testing on relationships! Do not make ANY big decisions during this period. Your hormones really are all over the place which drastically changes your moods, attitudes, behaviour etc. it’s all such a shock to the system. Just take a step back, be as civil as you can just to get through it - you don’t need to be happy and perfect right now! - and work on it when things have calmed down

Adjusting to parenthood isn’t easy at all. Everything changes and your hormones are all over the places. And your partner is also adjusting. So I would recommend focusing on your wellbeing and being a team now more than anything else. I had some big doubts about my relationship too but once the little one started sleeping through the night, we were able to have some quality time together and rekindle our relationship . but that was at least 7-8 months into parenthood. So unless there are other issues, you guys can work through this and keep communicating. You guys got this ♥️

I was told in the first year try not to suggest splitting or divorce because things are so hard and a massive change. I reckon what might be a better step would be getting out into your own place? Even if it was just you and baby in a rental. I have a friend who been with her partner 10 years and they have a 7 year old but the don't live together. Still very much together and happy but it just works better for them being in separate houses xxx

I’ve not read any of the other comments so I’m not sure if anyone has already mentioned what I’m about to say. I had a similar thing with me and my husband once he started going back to work and I was home all day with our newborn. I thought who did I marry why are we arguing so much and why is he being so horrible - doesn’t he know I’ve just gone through pregnancy hormones and birth is stressful enough and now recovery and lack of sleep like how can he not see how much I’m going through! I spoke to some friends and one is pregnant and read a pregnancy book. It’s called “the book you wish your parents had read” and it’s apparently really good. Besides that she said a lot of couples go through this newborn phase of arguments and not feeling understood. It’s mainly the lack of sleep and having to look after a whole new human being mixed with feelings of unconscious jealousy (from the man’s part that you are more focused on the baby than them).

Awww I’m sorry, the first weeks in the parenthood can be tough, I personally experience that. But I believe it was just a phase. Maybe the situation you are living in isn’t the easiest one, you need your privacy. Personally I wouldn’t throw away your relationship, give it time.

Try stick it out <3

Everyone says the first year is so hard, you are most likely not yourself with everything you went through due to the delivery. Give yourself some time and do not make any rash decision :) fingers crossed it all works out

Move in together save up for a deposit and find a place to live

Relationships are about working on issues together l, not breaking up and hoping they resolve on their own. If you get back together that issue is still there and becomes and endless cycle otherwise

I’m 2 years pp and in the same boat it haven’t got better for me tho unfortunately

After my daughter was born it was hard for myself and my husband too! It gets better once you all settle in proberbly and get a steady routine. I started noticing things get better around 2 and a half - 3 months… it’s such a big change it truly flips your world upside down! If you have hope that things will get better, don’t end the relationship. Give it time.

Get through the first year or so just as co parents if you can/have to,everyone is in the same boat as its such a hard adjustment but I would encourage you to try not to make any big decisions when you're in such a new phase where hormones are still probably settling.Seek connection with friends,family,and eventually things will likely get less stressful for you and your partner and you will hopefully find your way back to each other with some effort and intentionality from you both.All the best ❤️