Is it crazy and unrealistic to want to try for a large family after 35?

Hi! I'm 37 with a precious 6 month old daughter and am ready to try soon for a second.. Husband and I Really really desire a big family, like 5 kids..but I just don't know if that's realistic to want that? It took a few weeks to fall pregnant with my first but I just don't know the chances of that happening again but we are going to try soon anyways.
Just wondering if there is anyone here that tried for a larger family after 35?

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Weeks is not long…keep trying and you’ll get there. You could always go to Greece too and do IVF and fall pregnant with multiples, that’ll get you to five quick :). Just remember now you waiting this large family with your partner and through those hard times I plead you remember you chose this and stick through it and fight for eachother. 💗✨

I don’t want a large family BUT i had my first at 35 and im pregnant with second at 39 and have had no issues with fertility.
You could also ways get tested (how many viable eggs you have) to put your mind at ease.

4 more may be a bit of a stretch without multiples but you could defo have one or two more pretty easily if there are no fertility issues

I’m 35 and having my first soon.. also plan to do the same and have a large family x

I think you could probably do 3 for sure.

I had my first baby at 36 after 2 miscarriages and then a bit of a long wait to actually get pregnant again following the losses. All checks were completed but everything came back with no issues.

We then followed with having our 2nd baby when I was 38, with a planned 18mth gap between each baby.

I always wanted 4, but now I know it's unrealistic at the stage of life that hubby and I are at. Saying that though, we are more than happy with the 2 we have that made it earth-side and our lives are full! Medically and financially we couldn't risk what we now have to have more babies. Each to their own though, and best of luck to u xx

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I'm so not meant to be a mother.

My kids won't listen to me get into stuff when they know they aren't supposed to. Telling me no all the time. Only listen to their dad. Laughs when I correct them. I spend most of my time yelling at them because they don't want to listen to me at all. My husband said that I shouldn't have kids. And I am believing him on it. I was never meant to be a mother now. I won't hurt my kids I just want to disappear and make everyone else's lives better without me.

One and done… or not?

32ftm. I’m starting to feel so much pressure to have another baby soon as I wean from breastfeeding so they can be close in age and be friends, but I don’t feel ready for pregnancy and newborn trenches again 😭 my husband and I are all we’ve got. Having just one baby without a village has been really tough. Am I being unrealistic wanting another one soon?

Baby #2??

I really want baby number 2 and am thinking of doing it via IUI as a solo mama!
Has anyone had any experiences with it 👀

Tests

So I had a blood test at the drs bc I keep getting positive tests when the blood test was negative what could this mean? Hubby says the tests are negative and said he can’t see anything. Negative image down below.

Am I pregnant?

I lightly spotted almost 5 days ago, which is not common for me before my period.
My period was supposed to come today. I should have tested in the morning but its 5:30pm.
Is there a second line??

Anyone have this happen before?

We were not trying to conceive, used protection and had sex on week 2 of my cycle (accidentally on my peak ovulation day). Week 3 we had Flu A. Week 4 my period did not come (it’s very regular). I tested and it was negative (2 different brands).
What should have been week 2 of my next cycle (now 6 weeks post last period), I had light red/ pink spotting for one day when I wiped. The following week, I tested again, still negative, but this time almost all the dye was in the negative space, which I’ve never seen happen before. The area where it shows one horizontal line for negative and a plus sign for positive, the horizontal line was super faded at the 3 minute mark, and the negative vertical line in the next window was VERY dark. Now I’m on week 8 of all this, period did not show up yesterday. Nothing in my life has changed (no additional stress, no other illness, no changes in diet or exercise, etc).

Has anyone gone through this and NOT been pregnant? I’m super nervous as we thought we were done having kids.

PS. I know I should go get a blood test, does anyone know if urgent care will do that? I’m past being convinced by a pee test.