Mum Guilt 😕

LB is one month old today and I’m feeling incredibly guilty😣 FTM and not really sure what I should be doing to aid his development. I feel like I’m setting him up for failure..

I try to do tummy time every day and he spends time on a play mat during his awake periods but not really sure he can actually see anything? We have a black & white contrast book which I show him a few times a week but he doesn’t seem very interested yet.

I feel like I must be needing to do more? Please advise😞

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I feel exactly the same, my LO is also a month old and I feel as though I'm not doing enough. Hopefully someone can give us some advice, as a FTM it can be so overwhelming!

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I also feel this, but you're honestly doing the same as I am doing and it puts my mind at ease knowing we're all doing the same. Whilst they're adjusting to the world there's only so much that we can do.

I feel bad when I have to put baby down in the moses basket when he's awake just so I can do something or pop to the toilet. I can see him looking around and I feel awful because it's like he's just staring at 4 walls of the basket 😭

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I know your worry, but it sounds like you are!! This is what we do. I also read a book before bed each night and some short ones in the day. At one month they have no schedule really so just do what you can, and the worry shows you’re a good mum x

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but he is only 1 month old,his vision is still very weak,he is not strong at all to do anything..I dont stress myself at all about this ,my newborn is 4 weeks tomorrow..just breastfeed him and enjoying time together…

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Honestly you'll be doing more than you think! I promise, just making eye contact, talking to him and loving on him will be aiding his development so much at this age. At the moment we just sing, read books, spend very short amounts of time on her play mats and bouncer and I just chat to her all day about what I'm doing 😆

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Tummy time for us seems to go better leaning her up our chest after feeds etc whilst she's still a bit awake... We're only 3 weeks but yes not much interest in vision related things yet... Just keep trying every now n again x

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I feel so reassured reading this, I feel exactly the same! One “activity” I do enjoy is singing and talking to my baby. I’ll just have very random conversations with him about the weather or if I’m doing something (e.g changing his nappy or getting him ready for the day) I’ll talk him through what I’m doing, count his fingers and toes out loud ect. Not sure if it actually contributes anything haha but it definitely helps with some of the Mum guilt x

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He’s only a few weeks old! You’ll be doing more than you realise. Everything for them is a sensory experience - nappy changes, bath all count & simple things like talking, singing, contact naps and cuddles. All these aid development. Actual play time would probably be around 5mins for this age and would include tummy time and black & white cards/tracking. They can only see fuzzy black & white right now. Baby massage and stretches is another great one. Giving time to kick around and get to know body, feet out of onesies. Just looking at your face and eye contact, smiling, poking tongue out etc. all counts. You don’t need to be doing more right now,. As awake time grows then you can add in some toys for reaching/grabbing (closer to 12 weeks) & add crinkle toys, mirrors etc.

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Like others gave said, you are doing great! Just keep talking. Pretend you are a sports commentator, describe everything. They learn from that. And it's nice to hear your voice when you are away doing something else.

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Download the Baby Sparks app, that gives you daily activities to do with your baby. I loved it when I had my firstborn and did the activities every day. X

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https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.babysparks.babysparks

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We do the black and white cards, sing songs, talking to him, tummy time. I think talking to baby is most important. :)

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Everything is sensory related when there small, touch is everything, my LO is 6 weeks she loves foot massage, when changing nappy make her left hand touch her right foot and vice versa, I rub her teddy bears on her feet, hands and face so she can feel the texture ect just play and sing and chat to your baby, your doing great! They don't need alot when there so small still X

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