Absent father
I would like some honest options on this matter. So I was with ex partner when I fell pregnant, when I was 11 weeks he said he wanted out of our relationship but he still wanted a relationship with the baby when it was born.
He asked to come to appointments but I wasn’t comfortable with it, but up until I was 6 months pregnant I kept him updated on scans & appointments even if he didn’t ask or respond. I stopped hearing from him in October.
I had our baby in February, I told him that his son had been born and I the response I received was “Thanks for letting me know, hope you are well”.
I’d not heard from him since, he’d not asked how he is or to see him. Until I contacted CMS and then he texted to ask for a private arrangement & basically blamed me for his lack of contact.
As a new mum, should I be expected to update him? Letting him know how the baby is ect? Especially when I’m under the impression by his family he’s not interest.
This man wouldn’t even know what size nappies he’s in.
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Absolutely not! He’s a grown man who is capable of sending you a message if he actually cared to. You kept him updated and told him baby was here. That was his time to step up and ask to see baby and from there it should be both of you communicating to have a healthy coparent relationship. By the sounds of it he couldn’t care about baby. I’m sorry you’re in this position x
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