Fears

Hi, I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling with this. It’s really hard. I had same intrusive thoughts when both my babies were born and with time both times it dissipated but it’s a horrible feeling.
As a perinatal psychologist I also hear lots of parents talk about these types of fears, it’s part of our brains changing priorities. However even though it’s common, if it’s causing you a lot of distress and anxiety please don’t ignore it. Go see if you can speak to someone. PANDA and Gidget foundation are both amazing organisations that provide parents in the perinatal period support.
You deserve to feel safe and supported so if just need this to be normalised hope this has helped. If need more help please reach out to supports, there’s nothing to be ashamed of if need more help at this time

I was the same young baby, first time mum and husband goes away for work.... I got a German shepherd, perfect protector and family dog. Lots of energy and training, but I feel safe with her. I do have the backyard for that type of dog thou

Hi love. So sorry to hear you’re going through this. Becoming a parent raises all sorts of intense emotions, worries and fears! We want to protect our babies and the world feels incredibly unsafe. There can be a point though when these worries overwhelm our conscious and the thoughts become intrusive. If you’re feeling this way, I encourage you to speak to your primary care provider - a GP, maternal health nurse etc. You can be referred to various support services which help address these worries in the postpartum period. Speaking to a trusted friend or family member, perhaps someone in the same season of life as you, is also helpful.

There a lots of practical solutions to increase your security and safety at home/in the car/out and about etc. Having a reliable alarm system with monitoring has helped me feel safe at home when hubby is away for work. Not walking alone is a big one for me too. Think about what would alleviate some of your fear and anxiety in and out of the home. X